I was facilitating a group discussion last week and a white participant raised the question of why it's acceptable for black (and brown) people to drop the N-bomb but not white people. "It's an unfair double standard," she said, as have hundreds of other before her.
I've always found this to be an odd complaint. There are all sorts of things that each one of us can say to family and friends that would be off limits if a total stranger said those very same words.
But so many white people have voiced this double standard complaint over the years that I've come to see their struggle as rooted in more than the issues unique to race relations and the disturbing legacy of that word. What I see now is that young white people in this generation do not want to drop the N-bomb (with the "a" ending) as a means of entitlement, "If you get to say it, we get to say it." I'm starting to think that they want to do so because that word has become the "gold standard of cool."
Let's face it. Urban African Americans are the epitome of coolness. It's been like this for generations. Jazz. Cool. Rock -n- Roll. Cool. Hip Hop. Cool. Timberland shoes worn by white people. Uncool. Tims worn by black people. Cool. You get my point.
Watch Dave Chapelle and Chris Rock and a long list of lesser others kicking around N-bombs. What white person with any healthy barometer of coolness does NOT want to be as cool as Chapelle or Rock? And what it looks like these days is you're not going to get there if you can't drop the N-bomb -- especially in mixed company, with black gatekeepers of cool nodding or laughing in approval. THAT is the ultimate statement that says "I'm cool," AND "I've been admitted into the club."
Very simply, young white people may be wrestling with "nigga" not so much as a racial signifier as a signifier of "cool." In comparison to the generations that preceeded them, black people have reshaped the word from its singularly hateful focus and now it stands in the center of the culture as an indicator of much more than the state of race relations.
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I personally don’t like it when ANYONE says the “n” word, with the “a” ending or the “er” ending. I think when my friends here and back home use it that only promotes our white friends to use it as well. I have to admit that when I hear another black person say either word, I don’t have that big of a reaction because I’m used to people around me that are black saying it. I’m not saying I like it, but I’m not anyone’s mother, you do as you please. However, when people who aren’t black say it, I do get irritated. I don’t know why it affects me more but it honestly does. I feel like just because you aren’t white doesn’t mean you can say it either. I also have to admit that if I hear a white person say it that annoys the hell out of me. It sucks that there is a double standard, but for most white people saying that word, it’s just a no-no. There are people out there who get away with saying it but really I don’t think there is anything cool about either word at all. Yea, the word does have several different meanings today and is used in different ways, some of which are still used to put someone down depending on your tone of voice.. Back in the old days it was a huge deal for our ancestors, and we wouldn't be where we are today if it weren't for them, so I think it's kind of disrespectful to them in a way. That’s just my opinion though; other black people I know see it as re-inventing a hateful word into a word that signifies comradery.
On another note, I think its funny how there are so many negatives said about black people, but when it comes to music and saying words like the “n” word, we’re so cool and lots of people want to know and hangout with someone who is black. I don’t think white people should want to say the word, be “cool” in some other way. Anyway at this age, I think people should be over that being cool stage, just be you, if you have never said the "n" word in your life don't start now to fit in
Taking into consideration what the "N" word meant then (in the past), I understand this unease about the word. What it has been turned into now, as Sam saidit has become the "cool" thing, it should be unacceptable. I have said the "N" word before, more than once. At times it just slips out because of those who are around me when Im back home. It has become so acceptable that you hear it being yelled across the bus in my hometown of Brooklyn. Entertainment doesn't help the issue neither, Rappers want to use it to shape their music.
What is wrong with this picture? We are educationg ourselves to be belittled. We are doing this without even thinking twice about it.
What I dont understand as well are blacks saying "nigga this nigga that" and then whites turning around and saying it too. The blacks then want to get mad at them and want to start a fight. Then they want to go back to the whole issue of the term used in the slavery period...they dont understand that just by changing the ending doesnt take away that history. And they are giving other races, white in partiicular the feeling of its okay to say it.
Whats in a word? A word such as "shit" "fuck", who said that those are cuss words? they have no dirty past story to it.
But "nigga" does. And I think thats what make this word such a strong, offensive, powerful and dirty word.
I myself, hate to hear it said, from anyone, no matter who it is. And I make sure that it doesn't come from my mouth as well
The "n" word always seems to be an issue among white people, I personally don't understand it. Even if it seems to be a "cool" or popular word that many black (and brown) people use, why would any white person really want to use it? Do white people REALLY want to use the "n" word in casual conversation with or without African Americans being around? I'm serious…is that really the issue? I cannot imagine white people REALLY wanting to use the "n" word; I feel that it's just something for them to complain about. It's almost as if they are jealous, but who really cares? Why all the fuss about one little word…let Black people have the privilege to use that word in a positive way. White people have so many other privileges in this world, so why waste your time trying to understand what is so unacceptable about white people using the "n" word? We all know that that specific word has history, and although it is a double standard…the word STILL has history, and white people who have an issue with this need to get over it, and realize that it will never be "OK" for them to use…ever. I personally don't even like hearing white people use the word when they are singing along with rap songs; it really gets under my skin. Although I don't like hearing it, it's almost like its ok for them to use it then…but I still don't want to hear it. I've already said this, but people seriously need to get over it. How many words are in the English language? Find another word to focus on, besides nigga OR nigger. Besides, if someone were to wave a magic wand and make it alright for white people to use that word in a positive way…what would they really do with it? Would they really use it? Probably not. I feel that it's like wanting to buy something really bad when you're broke, then when you get the money, you don't even want it anymore.
The way I look at things is that it is really unfair and just plain stupid that Black (brown) people can use that word and white people can't. The way I look at it is if you use that word your uneducated and blind to the meaning and the history of that word. I am African American man and I am glad to say I choose not to use that word. The word has such a dark and hated past to it that if you use that word in such a joking manner and your black your just being a hypocrite. The problem is the way the media uses that word and they way people use that word the meaning of the word has changed into a form of greeting or a form of congratulating to another person. I was In my discussion group and my TA said that his Indian friends use the n-word all the time. I was shocked to hear that just because the Indian race had nothing to do with the n-word. They were never involved with that issue it was just between the white and black race. And when he said it opened my eyes to see that the media has such a strong influence on how we act,think,dress, and speak. There is no way that the n-word would be used so loosely if music artist didn't use that word in there song so many times. There even some songs that are titled with the n-word in it. It is just a prime example on how the media has a strong hold on us. what the media says and do we do bottom line, There is no way to escape it. The N-word is such a cruel and harsh word that should never be used but the way that the media portrays the word we think it is ok to use it so freely.
This double standard, like many double standards is definitely present, but I think Sam is only partially right. A lot of white people do seem to wish they were black in some aspects of life, especially with regard to sports and athleticism. However, with the n word and the "accepted" version nigga I don't think this is always the case. This is more a question of a person's social background than wanting to be cool. Some people may want to be able to say it to black friends because they feel accepted more, but most seem to realize who can say it and who can't, regardless of race. The people who use the word, whether they are black or white, use it as a friendly term in the right context and at the right time. I had a discussion about this with a bunch of my friends freshman year, only one of whom is black. It was decided that some members of our group of friends can say it, but some can’t, and this was essentially based on how comfortable you are using the word and how you talk in general. I feel that some white people may use the term in order to sound cool, but soon realize that that isn’t really accepted and won’t use it any more. Then on the other hand, some white people use it and have grown up with it because of where they are from, and when they say the word they aren’t looked at much differently than black people who use it.
I don't think that dropping the "n" bomb is smart idea for anyone to use it. I don't particularly care if white people or people of color use it, but i also do not see the point in doing so. Given the word's violent history, I just find it odd that it has resurfaced with the use as a sign of acceptance or coolness. Whether it be used jokingly, in a friendly manner, or maliciously the word to me brings back the horrors of what happened in the past. It also shows to me that some of the oppression or hatred still may be upon us in some sort conscious or subconscious way. I believe that if we as people were able to transform that word into what it is today, we could probably handle using or making up another one to take its place. I know it’s apparently apart of our culture, so I can’t really do much about it and don’t plan to. But I will not use it, and will just shake my head at its use because it truly baffles me. I don’t really know the origins of other racial slurs or names so I don’t think the effect on those words is the same, but they are held in the same regard I think. Their use is frowned upon for the most part.
I feel like the N word is a lot like the F word: F as in Faggot or Fag. Even gay can be the same deal. Many people say “that’s gay” and never think twice about the fact the word has changed to signify something stupid or lame. Being gay, it can offend me. It’s not something I stop people on the streets from saying or correcting them, but what if people just started saying “that’s black” or “that’s brown?” How would races other than whites see this? It’s interesting that that the N word was a horrible word from the times of slavery and is still controversial. The rules stand very simply though. Many blacks don’t like the words, but others use it as a term of endearment. That is their prerogative.
I’ve never liked the term “that’s gay” or “fag” like it’s our word or something. Sure these words come out occasionally, but never negatively. I’ll say I’m gay or a fag to people occasionally, but some gay people see this as their term of endearment; almost like a secret club. So when other people who aren’t part of the club say it, it’s offensive. I understand that. I get offended when people joke and say homophobic word, even when they don’t mean for it be offensive. It still offends me.
That doesn’t stop people from not saying it. For some reason, race is such a burden of guilt for white people that the N word is not even thought about. People are afraid of what might happen when the N word is used. How does that explain how everyone uses homophobic words? Do people not feel guilty about how homosexuals are treated?
This word is more of a cool thing to say I feel, white people want to say it because other people are using it. When other cultures are saying it and using it in which ever way they choose, we want to say it just like them. I think white people are a classic example of followers. We want everything, and we always want to be on the top. Like, in class when we talked about the game “King of the Mountain,” the white culture is always the one on top, and we always want to be in that position. So, when that “n” word is used by prominently black and brown people it is almost like they are at the top with a “new trend.” This word has been around for centuries, but in today’s world since we are dropping the “er” and putting an “a” on the back of the word, it is supposedly okay since it is a new form of saying it. Overall, I do not like the word because it brings up old history and a very bad time in our country. So, I look at that past memories of slavery as a live and learn process. If blacks and browns want to say that word, I say go head. It is a free country, but look at the people around you the next time you say it. Then, listen to the next time you hear some one else say that “n” word. Compare the two times and see what was different and similar. See if the black race said that word in both scenarios. This “n” word I feel is only classifying a specific race. That word was very rude, ignorant, and derogatory centuries ago, but what is it today. Everyone has their own opinion on this issue; I sure do not use it.
I don’t like when people say the “n” word, it always makes me cringe. As a white girl, I would never say that word. I’ve heard a few of my guy friends say it before when they were joking around and if I’m there to hear it, I always tell them to not use that word. I’ve also heard white people complain that it’s “unfair” that black and brown people can use the “n” word but they get so offended when white people use it. I think this is a little strange, why would white people WANT to use that word? I personally don’t understand why black or brown people use it either but I think it’s up to an individual, not the society. When you really think about it though, the “n” word is just like any other curse word, it’s only given meaning because society agrees that it is negative and derogatory. If, as a society, we decided that the “n” word no longer had the particular morning it does, then anyone would be able to say it without offense being given or taken. However, because of the agreed upon meaning, I don’t think that anyone should use the word, but especially white people if it is offensive towards people of other races.
I think that the “n” word with the a ending has becoming the epitome of cool as Sam has said. Me being a white male feel very self conscious when I use it when either singing a song or repeating a line from a movie or a show and I don’t think I should be. I am very into hip-hop culture. Being a white kid people find it strange when I tell them that I love music like A Tribe Called Quest, Mos Def, and Jurassic Five, even my black friends. When I listen to hip-hop songs I don’t feel bad when they drop the “n” word or even when I’m by myself singing I’ll drop it. It’s when I’m at a party and hear a song that I won’t say it in fear that someone will hear me and pin me as some racist that drops the “n” word when really it’s the total opposite and I drop it because of my love for hip-hop culture. Same thing goes with movies and shows. One of my favorite scenes from The Chapelle Show is the skit where Chappelle is Rick James and he is over at Charlie Murphy’s house and he goes “F*** your couch n****” while wiping his shoes on the white leather couch. Jokingly I say this around people I know because it is funny. I wouldn’t dare say it in front of black people that I don’t know because again I feel self conscious. I guess what I am trying to say is that I don’t want to feel bad for saying the “N” word in a non derogatory way from a pop culture reference.
I often find myself questioning why it is acceptable for black people to say the “n-word”, but unacceptable for white. I do not think it is a matter of being “cool” or not. I feel that most white people are confused when they hear black people tossing the word around. I often think to myself, “Wait, isn’t that word really offensive? Why can they use it, but I cannot?”
It seems that the seriousness of the “n-word” has lessened in our generation. I can think of a myriad of songs I listen to that use the word; however, none of these artists are white. I think it would be interesting to see how the media and our culture would react if a white artist were to use the “n-word” (non-maliciously) in their song lyrics. My guess is that most people would immediately shoot out the term “racist”. I always have gotten the impression that it is not okay for white people to say the “n-word”. Personally, I do not feel comfortable saying it. I fear that people would take it in the wrong way and accuse me of being racist even if I was just trying it to be “cool”. As much as I want to say, “Oh it’s just a word”, the history of its usage in the past has given it much more meaning than just a word, it was used in a derogatory manner. I mean after all, it was white people that gave it that offensive connotation.
I hate the "n" word. As a white girl, it makes me feel really uncomfortable when other white people around me say it, even though that isn't very often. However, for some reason, I barely flinch when a black person uses it, whether it's in a song or regular conversation. I guess I feel that since it has to do with their history, they can use it as they wish. Although I sometimes I wonder why they would want to use it. It has such negative connotations.
In all honesty, I've really never heard a white person complain about not being allowed to say the "n" word. I think that most people understand how sensitive others are to that word and, in general, don't use it. I'm not saying that it never happens, because I know that it does, but I don't think it happens as often as Sam is implying. Perhaps I just don't surround myself with people that think that it is okay, or maybe I'm just being naive.
As for the word being cool, I do understand what Sam is saying. White culture does tend to take from black culture in America, and I do not think that the white kids who are saying it mean to be demeaning to African Americans. However, I still have a hard time understand what makes white people feel that they have the right to use it, and to think that they are cool because of it. Are they simply that ignorant? Do they not know the history of the word and how it was used in the past? And as for it being the "gold standard of cool," if it is in fact true, I think that it is a sad part of our culture, but I guess I'm just not cool.
I agree with Dalena. I don't think it is appropriate when anyone of any color uses this word. I see it as a tabooed type of word in our society today. I feel that when said it can have too many different connotations and cannot be used in a nice way at any time. I feel that if one black person says it to another that is just making white people think that it is okay with them if they use it as well. Similar to girls calling their friends "bitch" or "slut," will make guys think that okay names to be calling girls.
I feel that using this race related word has an ignorant and uneducated persona of the person who uses it. Instead of using words like this in conversations to greet someone we should be taught as youth to respect each other by using our real names.
I just feel that dropping the "n" bomb is disrespectful not only to the person you are saying it to (regardless of your race) but also shows vast disrespect to the generation of Black Americans who were called that in extreme hatred less than 40 years ago. We may have shaped the meaning to be seen just as easygoing as say "hey bro" or "what's up dude?" The reality of this is that there are still millions of people alive who feel a very deep emotional hurt when this word is uttered, from someone of ANY race. I just think while those people who lived through the time of the Civil Rights Movement are still living amongst us we should not disrespect them. I get offended when someone says that word to me or to someone else, whether it be between one black person or another or a black person and a Hispanic, etc. If saying the "n" word isn't wrong in the eyes of society, then why should any other racial slur be considered wrong? Because a few people decided to "rise above" and embrace this term? Do Hispanic people embrace being called "spics" or Italian people embrace being called "degos"? Maybe this occurs amongst people of the same race as them, but said between strangers this would not be COOL. I just think if we accept one racial slur into our language then we might as well accept them all. Why discriminate against which racial slurs we use?
The “n” word has always been a word that in my community it has been ok to say. There never used to be many black people living near me but people in my high school used the word. When I came to college my new roommate informed me that it really offended her. This really confused me because she is a white girl much like me in many ways. But I respected her wishes and I do not use the word. But in my own mind I am one of the people Sam was talking about in this blog. I really do not understand why it is ok for black people to say it, even if they do say it with the ‘a’ ending instead of the ‘er’. I think that it is unfair that it is ok for them to say it but when I say it, it becomes a huge problem. I think that an example of black celebrities can use the word, but whites cannot happened last year with Kramer from Seinfeld. He was doing a stand up act at a club and used the n word. This became a huge deal, but why is it ok for Chris Rock to stand on stage and every other word out of his mouth is the n word? Just because of the color of his skin he does not get jumped on about this topic. My personal opinion about the word is that if black people get offended when they hear it used by a white person, they should not let us hear them using it, because in a way it makes us as white people feel that it is ok to be used.
So, we discussed this very same issue during our last recitation and it really had me thinking. How does such a word, with such a profound history suddenly evolve into being the signifier of “cool” for the 20th century hip-hop artists and African-American actors and comedians?
As said in our discussion, words are just words. Yet, I feel differently about that statement. Sure words are just letters put together and then we are left to derive a meaning from them. But certain words have so much history and meaning behind them that you cannot simply look at them as just letters put together. Such a word is the “n” word.
The word has a history of being used to belittle, harm, harass, and hate on people of the black (brown) race. For them now to turn this word into something “cool” and socially acceptable among themselves is beyond me. I know they probably understand the hardships that follow that word, and are looking upon it as a way of acceptance with one another. But for me, that’s a hard pill to swallow. And for the simple fact that they use it as a gateway for white people to enter their “cool” circles, is just ridiculous.
People need to understand and really think about the words that are coming out of their mouths. We are reaching an age where it is important to think about what you say, and make sure you say it in the context in which you wish others to perceive. And ultimately, you need to realize what certain words mean to others.
Personally, I have not heard another white person complain about the double standard of not being able to use the “n” word. However, I am sure that people have complained. Double standards for anything are unfair because that is exactly what they are. Despite that, for me, I get uncomfortable when anyone, white, black, brown, whoever, uses the word. I cringe a little bit if I happen to hear a hip-hop song that inevitably uses the word. I think there are plenty of other words for people to pick from in our language, or any other language for that matter, to make themselves sound cool and appear cool to others. I do not really think that twisting the meaning of the “n” word makes anyone cool, although, maybe people are trying to make the best of previously awful situations with the history of the word. I am really not sure. Either way, I do not think that either group of people, white or black should be entitled to casually use that word, whatever the meaning. Even if people explain what it might be referring to now, people are still aware of the way people used it throughout history. I do not think the “n” word can ever really be separated from its past connotation.
I have to disagree. I don’t think white people want to use the N-word because they want to sound “cool”. I don’t think white people desire to say that word (with “er” or “a” attached) at all. For me it sounds disgusting. When I hear a black or white person use it I think it’s disgusting. I never associate the word with being “cool”, ever. Even when comedians use it it’s not funny to me. I cringe when I hear the word, no matter what context it’s used in. I cringe because, yes it’s just a word, but this word has had a long history of hate and discrimination attached to it. Our society has labeled it as a dirty word. I never met a white person who wished they could say the N-word. I think the reason why you keep getting asked the question, “Why can’t we say it?” it’s because black people can say cracker like it’s no big deal. When a black person says it nothing happens to them. But when a white person says nigger and esp. nigga they are immediately ridiculed and flipped out upon. So that is where the double standard argument comes into play. It’s a double standard for a black person to use a racial slur against a white person vs. a white person using it against a black person. That is where the “double standard” controversy is stemming from. White people have no desire to use the N-word and we don’t think its “cool”. If anyone thinks its “cool” to say the N-word then they are seriously wacked in the head. Our argument is coming from the fact that it’s not right that a white person gets freaked out on for saying nigger when a black person can say cracker. and it’s like ok whatever.
But if we look at it this way, we are arguing about the use of a two words. Why are we fighting about what races can use which words? Why can some races use a derogatory word against another race, but the other race cannot? Shouldn’t we be putting our efforts into something a little more productive? Instead of fighting about the use of a word/words we should fight to just eliminate them. Both words, cracker and nigger, are derogatory and express hatred. Why should both races fight to be able to use them if they are horrible words? Both words shouldn’t be used by any race because they are both discriminatory and racial slurs. Therefore, we should just stop using both words all together.
I have to go along with what Darlena said about not liking anyone saying the “n” word. I think that it is disrespectful to the people in the past who were discriminated against using this word. There could be so many other words that could be used instead and it wouldn’t change the overall meaning of what anyone was saying. Instead of walking up and greeting someone by using the n-word, it could easily be replaced by many other phrases that could sustain the same meaning.
When black people say it like in rap songs, and in comedic performances it will make all different people want to say it, including white people, which is deeply frowned upon. I think if the word is just dropped out of everyone saying it, there won’t be any controversy and no one will even feel the need to use such a word.
When Sam explained in his first entry that when white people see black comedians such as Chris Rock use the n-word they then use it in turn because they want to be cool. I completely agree with this statement because sometimes after watching a comedy performance or a “gangster” movie I will even find myself quoting these movies and in the quote they use the n-word. I don’t even realize I’m saying an offensive word because I’m just quoting a movie. But after I feel like I have to watch very closely what I say in an effort not to offend anyone.
Overall, I just think that if the word was dropped out of movies and comedy then less and less people would use this word because often times the people that do use it are trying to be more and more like the actors and comedians.
I don’t really think it is appropriate to use the “n-word” as a white person, and I guess I am indifferent to black people using the word. To me, this word has such a negative history, and I think that white people trying to re-institute it and use it in a “positive” was is disheartening. Why would we use the same word to try to “relate” to black people as our ancestors did years ago to oppress their families? It seems pretty wacked to me. I can understand why black people would modify the word and put a positive spin on it with the “a” ending, because it shows that they can take a bad situation, rise about it, and make it good again. I do agree that blacks that frequently use the word probably encourage some whites to use it, but still, I don’t think whites can just think they have the right to use it, especially when considering the history behind the word. I think a lot of blacks don’t care if a white person uses the “n word” if they are close friends with them, however, many others are equally offended if they are friends with the white kid who uses it or not. Therefore, my advice to fellow white people is JUST.DONT.SAY.IT. This way you are respecting everyone, and not offending anyone. So what if some black people are cool with it? Some aren’t, and I don’t think anyone is going to be offended by the absence of the “n word” from your vocabulary. Are you really going to miss saying it that much? It’s one word! Try relating by using a different “term of endearment,” if you will. Let’s all love each other, we’re all good people, let’s start acting like it.
I am a young, white, female and I seriously do not see the obsession with people and these words. With regard to the “n” word, I have never had the desire to use it. Why would I? I do not think that it would make cool. It has a dirty, degrading meaning (at least it did in the past) and I do not want to be a part of something that was used to hurt people. Plus, it seems to be a touchy subject for most, and while it can be fun to push the limits sometimes, I am not about to push someone’s buttons and piss them off just so I can utter some vowels and consonants. Maybe to some people that could be called the infamous white guilt. However, I can assure you that it is not. I just do not want to make someone mad over a word. Plus, if you really think about it, words are just a collection of sounds that someone decided had a meaning somewhere in history. This particular word was designated as a hateful term used to insult people of color. However, it is pretty amazing how previous generations took a hateful word and said “to hell with that meaning” and turned it into a term not of hate, but of friendship. And hey, if it is looked down upon if I say it, oh well. I never wanted to in the first place. I am just glad that recent generations have found a way to counteract the negativity with a positive.
There are few words that people can say to actually make me cringe—the “n” word is one of them. I’ll start by saying I’m white, and maybe that means I don’t quite get just how offensive of a word it really is to black people, but there is something about the “n” word that without fail, always makes me cringe. It doesn’t matter the context it’s used in, whether with an “er” on the end or just an “a,” the word makes me uncomfortable. Maybe it comes from being raised with the idea that saying that word is unacceptable, but then why is it so easy for me to drop the F word, something else my parents taught me to never ever say, without blinking an eye. Maybe because the F word doesn’t come with a history of my people degrading all black people every time it was spoken.
I know that the argument was made by Sam that black people who say the “n” word in a friendly way can because they are part of the group it affects, but it’s very rare for me to hear a homosexual calling another homosexual something as offensive as a “faggot,” or a mentally handicapped person calling another mentally handicapped person a “retard.” I guess that is the part I don’t understand. There are plenty of situations where it’s only ok to make a serious situation light hearted because you are directly involved, but I don’t know where the line is drawn between ok to say and offensive.
It is true there are words only a family member can use to each other. It is like there are things others can talk about my family and things others who can not talk about my family. Families can bad mouth each other to a certain point but it is also most painful when it goes over that certain points. For example, when others call me bitch or a bastard, I might just laugh and walk away, however, it would be very hard for me to do the same if my brother calls me by such name. It is the balance between what is okay and what is not okay that we learn as we live together. It is also true that I know when to joke around. For example, I am a Korean and my Korean language has different levels of words that show respect from elderly to a kid. My parents are very friendly with me so I can lower my level of respectful words a bit and same for my older brothers. However, no stranger can do this to them. Also, when I am being punished, I will choose my words more carefully. I believe this is mostly how it is with the N word too. Although, I have not called anyone by this word, I know when it is alright and not alright to use this word. It is obvious; when my friend does not use this word with his friends I do not use this N word with him either. With the Korean language, I know some elders had looked down on me because I do not use “the correct way to talk to the elders” to my dad, so I am more careful next time when I am with strangers. I bet in black community there are people against using the N word to each other and people who are perfectly fine with it. I don’t mind when other people use this N word when there is no hatred with it. I mean come one, you probably can guess if I am cursing at you or thanking you even if I speak in Korean. I guess all I want to say is that, it is just a word, but also, you can’t take back what you have already said. So think before you talk.
For me, reading this blog kind of made me angry. I hate the N-word, and I’m sure I’m not alone in feeling this way. I feel like the people that use it nowadays do feel like they are being “cool” when they say it, but to me, an outsider looking in, I find the word to still be disrespectful and hurtful. Sure, I am a white woman, but knowing the history of the word, I find offense to people using this word. Some people may say that it is OK for black people to use this term because it was originally directed towards their race, but think about something: would the word “cracker” be a cool thing to say? I don’t think so. The N-word is so inappropriate to be used in any situation, trying to be cool or not. It’s just like dropping the F-bomb. It’s just a word to fill in the space that really doesn’t need to be used. I feel like people use these words just to say something, which is completely ridiculous. If you think it will be offensive to anyone, then why use it? When you said something about saying things within family and friends: that can go to a certain extent. What is said within close friends and family is one thing, but when someone gets offended, things need to change. I know in my family, if anyone ever used the F- or N-word, people would get really quiet or walk away because they don’t appreciate people talking like that. Overall, I feel like this word is just disrespectful to everyone and doesn’t make anyone look cool, just stupid.
I’ve always been curious about how black people still use the “n” word with the “a” like they do. I realize that it has come to take on an entirely different meaning than the hateful word that originated in the South so many years ago, but who came up with the notion of changing a couple letters and making it a common term? Why would you want to continuously use a term that has it’s roots in your people being enslaved? I suppose it started as a way to identify, and to not let the memories of that oppression die, but I think we can all agree that that meaning is no longer there. But, being a white person, it’s hard for me to be making that kind of argument. I will agree that white people want to say it to be “cool.” White people have always been attracted to the urban rap culture, and when someone listens to songs that say the “n” word over and over, it’s bound that someone is going to start trying to say it. I think it’s pretty silly that white kids are trying to say it. Almost as silly as black people using it the way they do now. There are some rappers out there, like Nas, Mos Def or Talib Kweli, who are trying to get black people to get back to understanding the root of the word and use it in a smarter way, not just throw it around carelessly without thinking about what you’re really saying. Obviously I don’t have much say in how the word is said, but personally, I would hope that black people will put a little more thought into what they’re saying when they want to throw out the “n” word.
If dropping the ‘n’ bomb is cool, than I would like to know what is not cool. I feel like this word is so overused by individuals in both the white and black races. This word is a meant to be demeaning, like if a girl was called a ‘bitch’, it was not originated to be ‘cool’. It confuses me when I hear or hear of black people using this amongst each other because it is understood that it is an offensive term- but if it is really that offensive, how is the term so accessible to use? It also confuses me when white people coin the term amongst each other as well. I feel like this only occurs within groups of white people that follow culture of black people, or at least stereotyped culture. If they have the Tims and the music, I guess they feel it is alright to use the widespread terminology. Although I do not agree with this, it is not fair to say that a double standard does not exist. If a black person is allowed to say something aloud, should a white person not be able to have the same rights, and visa versa? Freedom of speech, right? Even if the speech is demeaning and the only purpose behind it being said is to create informal conversation or an illusion of ‘coolness’. The ‘n’ word is just another ridiculous term in the languages of the world that was created to divide and segregate individuals that were different. I do not believe it should be used amongst any groups, seeing as in most situations, it is offensive and/or a slippery slope. Why even provoke a possible bad outcome when there are so many other words to use- like ‘buddy’, ‘pal’, or let’s even be creative, ‘friend’. Any of these are better than dropping the controversial ‘n’ bomb.
As I began reading the blog entitled ‘Dropping the N-bomb – part one’ I thought it would be the same commentary like all the other ones written by white people. I thought it would be another review about how it was so unjust that black people were able to use the N word but white people were not. While reading the blog I realized that this was a completely different view than any other I had ever read from anyone. I couldn’t believe that just a few hours ago, my friends and I were just having this discussion while one side was debating that the word should be displaced from the vocabulary of anyone, a few others and I argued the exact point that was made in this blog entry by Sam. I was very surprised that Sam held the same exact view and perception as me as to why white people felt that it was soooo unfair that they couldn’t use this word. However, there was one viewpoint that I never analyzed and that was that the minority, black, or hip-hop community is the major driving force in setting the new trends or fads.
I can understand that people may be influenced by the hip-hop community but it really bothers me that white people are trying to have yet another say in something that will eventually alter our community. Throughout history the majority or white people have time and time again imposed themselves on every minority, changing the way they behave and act and even changing the way they are viewed. In no way am I bashing white people because I personally don’t have any deep issues with this race but I cant stand how they feel the need to intrude themselves on our culture yet again. For instance, in the hip-hop community loose fitting clothes used to be the norm. Now that this look is being associated with violence and crime, the majority has influenced society to deny people that wear this look entrance into public places, like clubs. How can you tell people what they can and cannot wear in a public atmosphere, the idea of this is just mind-boggling.
Why? Why? Why do white people think it is so “unfair” for black people to be the only users of the N word? Why do they want to say it so bad? Even if saying this word isn’t the issue with white people, please explain to me what it is? Why are you trying to change our culture and why do you care so much about what occurs in this community. I mean is it really an issue that we address each other with the N word. Are you really that mad you can’t use it? We have taken a negative word from the oppressor and turned it into something positive, a word that is now used as a term of endearment ☺. This word is one that we say to each other because we feel comfortable with this term. If we aren’t so angry about addressing each other with it, than why are you? I cant understand, for the life of me, why a white person would even want to address a black person or any person by a name that was used by their ancestors to demean African Americans. If the real answer is to be cool than I think that’s pretty stupid. That would mean that everyone could go around with word vomit, spewing racial slurs like spic and chink because it’s “cool” (I don’t know if I spelled these racial terms correctly, nor do I care because I would never use nor do I want to use these kinds of terms). I just want one valid response, not the old hoop laa about how no one should use it because yadda yadda. I want to know why you really think you should be able to use it or why we shouldn’t.
I admit, I have never really had to deal with the issue of why the N word is acceptable for black people to say but not white people. Sure, I have heard the debates go back and forth, but growing up in predominantly white areas I never really heard it said. I cannot even recall any of my black friends ever saying the word. It has made me uncomfortable the few times I have heard it said. Even in movies, no matter what the race of the person, the word really sticks out at me even if it is being used as a greeting.
That being said, I think it is unfair to say that it is all right for this group of people to say it and not this group. The comparison to being able to say things to family and friends that you would not be able to say to other people does not fit the situation. It is not “family and friends,” it is an entire race. Though this can be ambiguous where do you even draw the line between who is in the race and who is not. Is it acceptable for people who appear white but have black ancestry to drop the N-bomb? My guess is they would be treated like any other white person who said it. I do agree that some white people say it because it is “cool,” but from my experience white people avoid the word like the plague. I think the only reason white people argue that it is not fair is because it is human nature to rebel against restrictions. Even though they really do not care to use the word, knowing that it is taboo for them to use it is irritating. I know if I am told I am not allowed to do something but others are, I immediately start questioning why.
I am all about personal freedom, and though it makes me uncomfortable, I believe people should be able to say the N word if they want to; however, I also strongly believe in personal accountability. If you are going to say the N word then understand that it holds a very strong meaning for some people and there could be consequences for your actions.
I think that very few people today would use the “N” word to offend somebody; however, there were always be rude people in the world. I would agree that the use of the word has turned more into being cool. When white people use the “N” word, I think they just want to show that they are close with and are accepted by black people. The “N” word is everywhere today. You can find it in movies, certain television shows, and music. I can see why a white person might question why they cannot have the same right to use the word, but I do not understand their desire to use it. The term goes back in history for blacks and I do not think that white people have any right to its use. I do not like hearing the “N” word in general because people really do mainly use it to look cool, which I find completely idiotic and actually uncool. Because of the vast history and pain and hurt that has come along with the “N” word, I do not think anybody but blacks have the right to its usage. It must be really hurtful to hear white people throw around the term when they never had any ancestors go through the pain that came along with the word. I think that white people need to respect the fact that there are just some words that are not appropriate to say.
The “N-Bomb” in my opinion is not a word that needs to be part of someone’s vocabulary in order for that person to be deemed “cool.” I would not even necessarily call this a “double-standard” because my ancestors (along with almost every other white persons ancestors) have not had to endure the things that many of these black/brown peoples ancestors had to. We will never know what it feels like to be called a “N-Bomb” in the way in which it is a sign of hatred; neither will most of the black/brown students in Soc 119. But they can hear the stories from their ancestors and these stories will hit closer to home with the black/brown students than they ever will to any of us white students sitting in 100 Thomas. In my opinion saying the “N-Bomb” is completely unnecessary for a person of any race to say, it should be looked at as a sign of hatred and not as a word that makes people “cool.”
There are many things that white people may deem “cool” that I do not necessarily think would be deemed “cool” in the black/brown culture. For instance someone had come into our discussion group one day to supervise and was wearing flip-flops, true religion jeans and had a very preppy look to him which is more of a popular dress attires in the white community, but he was black and he said that when he goes home to the city of Philadelphia all of his friends make fun of him. I also know for a fact that if one of my guy friends from home came home at Christmas break wearing Tim’s we would get a lot of hassle about it, I come from a very preppy place, where Sperry’s are going to overrule Tim’s any day.
Kelsey Hanrahan
The “N-Bomb” in my opinion is not a word that needs to be part of someone’s vocabulary in order for that person to be deemed “cool.” I would not even necessarily call this a “double-standard” because my ancestors (along with almost every other white persons ancestors) have not had to endure the things that many of these black/brown peoples ancestors had to. We will never know what it feels like to be called a “N-Bomb” in the way in which it is a sign of hatred; neither will most of the black/brown students in Soc 119. But they can hear the stories from their ancestors and these stories will hit closer to home with the black/brown students than they ever will to any of us white students sitting in 100 Thomas. In my opinion saying the “N-Bomb” is completely unnecessary for a person of any race to say, it should be looked at as a sign of hatred and not as a word that makes people “cool.”
There are many things that white people may deem “cool” that I do not necessarily think would be deemed “cool” in the black/brown culture. For instance someone had come into our discussion group one day to supervise and was wearing flip-flops, true religion jeans and had a very preppy look to him which is more of a popular dress attires in the white community, but he was black and he said that when he goes home to the city of Philadelphia all of his friends make fun of him. I also know for a fact that if one of my guy friends from home came home at Christmas break wearing Tim’s we would get a lot of hassle about it, I come from a very preppy place, where Sperry’s are going to overrule Tim’s any day.
In the past I have used the “N” word because I grew up with it. My grandfather said it a lot when I was l younger and I thought it was okay and normal to use. Over the last decade, the scandalous word has found its way into everyday pop culture. I would hear hip hop artists use the word and I would still think everyone was able to say the word. I was told by a friend of mine that I should not say the “N” word because it is disrespectful and only people of color can say it. This confused me and still does to this day. I do not understand where the limitations fall on race issues such as this. How are black and brown people, allowed to use the word that they think disrespects them and yet they are fine calling one another the same word. When it comes to this argument I stand strong on the fact that what is offensive when said by one should have the same meaning when said by all. My personal opinion is that nobody should be able to use the word whether you are black, white, yellow, or brown.
Honestly, I think there is a huge difference between the N word ending with an a and the N word ending with er. I know that must sound ridiculous, but if you think about what Sam was saying, society has made it “cool” to say the N word with an a. Just like society has made certain words have meanings, like “fuck” or “shit.” They are considered curse words. However, saying nigga to everyone is not always acceptable in certain situations. I believe there are three types of people. The ones who are really actually offended by the word, the ones who don’t get offended and then there are those who think they are supposed to get mad, and so it’s there initial reaction because of where they grew up and are influenced by whatever there friends think. At home growing up with many black people around me, I knew which people it was okay to say it to and which people it wasn’t. I played basketball with two black girls who were my really close friends, and I could say it if I wanted to around them and they wouldn’t care. But if they heard another white girl saying that they would be really pissed off—which is very hypocritical. This shows that for some people it’s only cool to say it if you’re friends, but you’re racist if you aren’t friends with them. It just doesn’t make sense to me. It is a double standard in a way, because why should it be okay for some people to say it and others not when it’s not even a question of being offensive. My friends on my basketball team obviously weren’t offended by it when I said it, but when others they didn’t know said it they were pissed off. Here, we are defining two different words and issues with them. Here, it is obvious my friends on the team weren’t REALLY offended by the word, it was just they think they are supposed to be offended with someone they don’t know or they want to pretend like they are. For these people, deciding who and who cannot say nigga is a completely different issue separate from saying the other word ending with er, which to me is completely unacceptable for anyone to say ever. To me, that word sounds so evil and degrading. I am not sure why I have come to decipher such different connotations associated with two terms rooted from the very same word.
I don’t understand what the big deal- why do white people even want to say the n-word? Why can’t white people just accept that they shouldn’t say it? Stop complaining, stop thinking your missing out…it’s just a word. I’m white and I personally don’t think anybody should be saying the n-word but it’s your prerogative. When we talked about this in class, the African American students said there is so much history that goes behind words and that’s why African Americans are so quick to get upset about things. So now my question to white people is, why is that so hard to understand? Are you that desperate to sound cool? It really shouldn’t be a big deal. I don’t even think it’s a double standard, I think it’s logical. I’m also Hispanic and I think it’s funny when my dad refers to himself as spic but if white person or African American called him that, even joking around I’m sure everyone in my family would be astonished. I suppose in the big picture whether white people or black people say it it doesn’t matter, but white people shouldn’t be offended when black people tell them not to say it.
I personally do not feel that anyone, regardless of the color of your skin, should use that word. This one word has so much meaning behind it. I do feel that it is appropriate to use this word. There are many other words that can mean the same thing, but in a word less offensive. Nigga can be used to represent a friend, or person you like to hang out with. Why can’t people just introduce each other as, “This is my friend, (insert name)”. This word was used throughout my high school. When I would walk through the halls, I would here “Yo nigga, what’s up?” or “this is my nigga, (insert name)”. I just think that it is ridiculous to use the word in any phrase whatsoever. My high school was fifty percent black and white people just accepted the fact that we could not use the word; not that we wanted to. Although I would never say that word, I do not understand what makes black people think that they can say it and not expect anyone else to. It makes me feel that some people are just uneducated and do not really understand where the word really came from and the origin. I do not think that black people get that it was used to belittle them a long time ago. If they do understand that, then I do not know how they can say it to each other. I do not think that it makes you look cool. It should never be allowed to be said by anyone. It should be omitted from our vocabulary
I feel that the reason many people use foul language is to feel “cool”. That includes d*mn, sh*t, b*tch, the f-word and the n-word. I feel as if the n word has evolved into just another “bad” word. When the n-word is used today, it often has little racial connotation. I have fallen victim to using the n word before. It usually happens when people around me are throwing it around leisurely. This has only happened about 3-4 times in my whole life. Growing up in a culturally diverse area I have been educated on the negative and racial connotation that this word was originally used for. Most of the time that I hear this word being used it is from black people using it amongst their friends. I generally don’t see a problem if other people use the word and no one is offended. I mean when it comes down to it, it is only a word. But going off of that I also don’t think that the people that use the word are any cooler that those who refrain. If it is okay for black people to use this “bad” word in the same connotation that they use the word fuck, then why can’t white people do the same? When anyone uses the n word I feel that you need to realize the way in which they are using it. We need determine if they are intentionally trying to offend someone or simply using it like the rappers on the radio and trying to be “cool”.
Even though I don't like hearing the "N Bomb" I often use it myself. For some reason it just slips out because I hear it so much in the songs that I listen to and I end up singing it along with the song. I know that it can be looked at as degrading my people and throwing away all of the hard work that black people have done to step away from that word. But I don't use it in a negative way. I'm not saying "Niggas is trifilin or that's just like a nigga to do something like that" I use it to refer to a black male like "that nigga sexy or dat nigga look good." Sometimes I use to refer to a friend like "dats my nigga." I know that other races can argue that it should be okay for them to use it the way that I use it because it's not to offend someone but they can't. They just simply can't do it without getting some feeling getting hurt or some hostility rising. I know it may seem like a double standard but that's my culture, I grew up with people saying that word and they didn’t. The majority of black people that use the “N Bomb” would be ready to fight if someone outside of that race called them a nigga. I know for sure that it wouldn't be taken very lightly by me or anyone that I know. I believe that every race has a certain word that other races can't use without it being taken offensively.
I have very mixed emotions about the use of the n-word. Obviously, this word, like many mentioned in previous blogs, has an entire volatile history behind it. And this word has become more and more prevalent among the normal, everyday words that many people use. Yet it also makes me think of the history of other words as well. Many things evolve and change, just like our society continues to do so. And in the evolution of societies and cultures, past images, songs, literature, and, in some cases, particular words, take on a new meaning. There is general confusion over the n-word, because different people attribute the word to different things. Many will look at the historical context of the word itself and completely eradicate it based on our past. Others will simply say that it changed into a meaning akin to "dude" or "friend." People hear it in different contexts by artists and musicians, friends and family members, communities and societies. I feel that the way you view this one word also must be seen in light of how you were raised to feel about this word. If a kid was used to calling his friends, "nigga," back home his entire life, who is to say that that is a bad thing? Yet is it right either? If that kid was told the history of the word, why it was used, who it was used against, and, though it does not have to be the case, if that kid was black, do you think he would continue to use it or disregard it altogether? And is there an answer to this question? Personally, I don't really use the term itself, with the "a" or "er" ending, for I grew up in a community where the word wasn't generally used in the newer, "cooler" manner. Furthermore, my first encounter with the n-word was its association with the history of racism, segregation, and slavery tied to it. Plus, when those around me used the word, it was used as a racial slur, often to put others down. So for me, the term itself doesn't often come out of my mouth. However, when I was exposed to others using it in a different context, I see how the word can and has taken on a new meaning. No, you can't dismiss the past, but should we just ignore it? Should the n-word cease to exist? And will it? And yeah, I can definitely see how white people are a little touchier when discussing the subject of using the n-word, but you're going to hear different responses from different people. Some people are gonna be okay with it and some aren't. Just like some people (white, black, brown, etc.) use it and some don't.
The n-word is an odd word, because it can be an ugly word that can be racially hurtful if said by the wrong person in the wrong way. Or it can be used as a word to of affection with a group of friends. It is weird to think that someone can call it a double standard, because yes, in one way it is because a black person can say it openly but a white person can not. But is it really a double standard when a white person wouldn’t be using it in the same way as a black person would. Why would a white person want to use the word anyway to make you sound cool? If everyone could say it I don’t think that it would make it cool anymore anyways. The N-word is just another thing that black people have made “cool.” They have taken a word used by white people to belittle their people and made it cool much like when white people wear timbs and black people wear timbs. The black culture has always “started” many cool things and white people and other cultures always try to adopt these ideas, such as the flat brimmed hat. But I don’t think white people will ever adopt the use of the word and be deemed as cool.
I personally don’t think it is appropriate for anyone to say the “N” word. I never liked the notion of a double standard. I think that if white people are supposed to refrain from the “N” word, as they undoubtedly should, then all people should refrain from using it. Allowing only black and brown people to say this word just does not make sense. With the negative connotation this word had in the past, I don’t see why anyone would want to refer to himself or herself in that manner anyway. Some may argue that the use of this word today is purely friendly and that we have freedom of speech and so can say what we want, but I just don’t understand why anyone would want to use a word today that was so horribly condescending in the past. If we are truly going to eventually become a more equal society and try to close the gap between people of different races we all have to abide by the same standards. We are never going to move on if we keep on making exceptions for our own particular race’s behavior, language, or attitudes. As different races I think we need to work away from the ideas that only some things can be said in the presence of others and work toward behaving and speaking in a way that is always appropriate for anyone to hear. When we take note as to what we are saying all the time, we will slowly begin to grasp what should and should not be used by our society.
Let’s think for a minute of everything the N-word symbolizes: oppression of blacks, disrespect toward blacks, hatred towards blacks, annoyance of blacks, the putting down of blacks…hmm there is nothing GOOD or “cool” about the N-word. Imagine that. So what I would like to know is 1) why black people have chosen to embrace the word that symbolizes the ultimate oppression of their people and 2) why white people who claim “not to be racist” would use the word itself OR any other form of the word. I remember the conversation in class that Sam blogged about the young lady who rose the initial question of why we still use the N-word. I know that there is freedom of speech, so my question does not question the legality of the usage. I just do not understand WHY we would want to keep a word around that has so much hatred behind it. I guess I will never understand because I am a white female. But let’s say that the worst name to call a white person was “cracker” (even though we all know it isn’t). I would never go up to my friends and be like “Heyyy, sup crackers!” Especially if it symbolized everything negative against my people. I would never want to preserve the usage nor would I want to try to turn it into something positive. Anyone else who thinks the opposite…I don’t think I’ll ever understand.
I associate the "N" word with the "derogatory" word. No questions asked. Ever since I was younger people used that word and it never appealed to me as positive or negative, but something that black people were allowed to say. This double standard has webbed its way into our society and I hate it. I respect that black people don't want white people to use the word, but why should they? Most black people's response is "its our culture, its like saying wassup.” In reality it was a derogatory and negative word that white people associated with people of color. To me, I just don’t like they way it sounds, I don’t see what the point of using it is. I guess, in the long run I don’t understand the culture part of using the “N” word, where, in many other circumstances I understand the culture from my friends and experiences. Black people have two reactions when I tell them I don’t think anyone should say the “N” word. They either try and defend only black people in being allowed to say it, or agree altogether, and think that it’s wrong. I just ignore it when its said, and try not to let it get to me.
I would have to agree with Sam in the aspect as a black man in America that there are certain aspects in our lives that white people want to imitate. One of the big things that white people want to imitate is the use of the n word. What people have to understand is that the n word is a word not meant for everybody and it is not because of a double standard it is because it doesn’t sound right coming out of other races mouths, it is almost like using the word bitch, when a girl can call another girl a bitch but if you call her a bitch she is offended. The same as if you call your friend a bitch then you call someone who isn’t your friend a bitch that person will be offended. Now I know people who aren’t black who use it and it all comes from where you are raised I have a Hispanic friend who feels like he can say the n word because he is Hispanic and he feels that Hispanics are closely enough related to blacks to use the word and also because he grew up in the city and that’s a commonly used word in the city. I also have friends who use because they have friends who let them use so they feel comfortable saying it. When it comes to me I don’t use the word often and I don’t mind if a person of another race uses it, though I would prefer them not to use it I realize that I can’t change them and I can only hope they respect me enough not to say it around me too much.
The “N” word holds a lot of power in it; it can be used as a term of endearment or to demean someone. Personally, I do not have a problem when black people use the term amongst each other, but I am upset when white people or people of other races use it with others in their race or to black people, thinking that it is the “cool” thing to do. I will admit that I, an African American woman, use it sometimes when I am with my black friends; however, I make sure to be aware of my surroundings or who I am with when I use it. I never say it around white people and around my friends who I know might be uncomfortable with the term. I feel as though it is acceptable when used among black people who are friends because in the context, it is used as a term of endearment. It is a way to say that we are close and this is something that we have to hold on to and something we are taking as our own. When white people or even people of other races use it, it seems as though they are trying to be cool and fit in. Many black people are upset by the fact that we barely have anything to call our own because white people tend to take it and try to make it theirs. The “N” word, with an “a” ending, is something some of us feel we can use to relate better. We try to embrace it now rather to than to let it put us down, putting a flip on its meaning. It doesn’t matter if people feel that it isn’t fair, the question is why do other people feel the need to also say it. Why do you think it might better your life? It seems as though the only reason is to feel cool. I don’t like when other black people use the term around or with white people because it gives them the idea that it is okay to use it with their friends and other black people. They may then find themselves in a situation when they use the term around a black person who doesn’t know them or doesn’t agree with them using the term and might find themselves in a world of trouble. The use of “N” word should be viewed the same as when friends or family members use certain terms with each other. If two girls are friends and one calls the other a bitch, it is more acceptable than if a stranger said it to one of the girls. Bitch is a word riddled with hate because we gave it that meaning, but different people choose what meaning they want to give to it at different times. It’s somewhat of an understanding between people in definition and intentions. I am not saying that the “N” word or any other vulgar term is acceptable to use, I am saying that I believe there are stipulations to when to say it and who can and this is absolutely fair. A question that does raise my eyebrow is why has black America become so acceptable of Hispanics using the term. The only thing I can say is that we may feel that we connect better with them due to the neighborhoods we may share with them and or SES standings in the United States.
Personally, I do not like the N – word. I agree that there is a double standard. But I also think that there is a double standard for many things. I completely understand as to why black people can drop the N - bomb but it is completely disrespectful and not right for a white person to do it. A lot of different races and cultures and people of different areas call each other names. When they call each other the name, its not hurtful or disrespectful. But the minute someone from another culture, race, or area calls them the same word, it is frowned upon. My example would have to be my sister and me. I know this does not compare to a whole race of people but if my sister (someone like me) called me an idiot, I would take it as a joke and not an insult. But the minute someone else that was not in my immediate circle called me an idiot or a name like that, I would take offense and think it was rude. Dropping the N – bomb is a little different and people do try to be cool when saying it but it should be kept in an inner circle. I think it is okay if a black person wants to call another black person the N – word, but a white person should wipe it out of their vocabulary altogether.
The “N” word is probably my absolute least favorite word in the entire collection of words throughout the world. There is no worse word a person can use to describe someone. The “N” word has a storied past in American history, and it was never used in any sort of positive context. The “N” word is a degrading word for people of no color to use to describe a black man or woman. That being said, as a white person myself I believe that African Americans should be free to use the word however they like. I don’t care if people think that it is a double standard for it to be acceptable that African Americans use the word and unacceptable when white people use the word. The fact is that is the right African Americans have earned. If they so choose to use the word in common language then so be it. African Americans were the objects of the abusiveness of the word. In my mind, even though it has been many many years since the word has been widely used as an insult to black people, the word still has plenty of power because of the historical context of its meaning. I would just like to mention that just because I believe that African Americans should have free range with using the “N” word and that white people should not, that does not give African Americans the right to reverse racism. Even though I believe black people should be the only people to use this word at leisure, I think that it should in no way give them the right or step towards reverse racism. People of all colors can be racist, and that is a fact.
In my opinion there is no double standard concerning the “N” word. When black people use it, I feel like it is acceptable, and it seems natural in the conversation, it’s just another word for friend or brother. At the same time, I understand that in that context it has no racial meaning; I would not use that word, out of respect to the history of black people. I feel like black people have the right to use it the way they want because they empowered this word, changed the negative meaning of it to something positive. If a white girl like me would use it, even around my friends, I feel like it would be hurtful, just because I didn’t share the struggle that black people did. One of my black friends called me the n word once, I took it as a compliment, but it didn’t even cross my mind to say it back to him, because I feel that when a white person uses it, it gets a different meaning. To me, when a non black person uses it, it will always be a degrading word, and I would like people to stop using it. This word has a cultural meaning in the black community, and if black people use it its fine with me, because it’s their right if they don’t see it in a negative way, but in my opinion, other races shouldn’t use it.
I think the “n bomb” is a touchy subject, no matter what race you happen to be. Its meaning has been transformed so much in the past couple decades, but people are still not completely certain about how they would like to use it. It could be a term of endearment, or it could be a hateful, offensive word; I believe it is up to the person and the context of the conversation in which it is being used. This happens with many of the words we use today. It only takes one person to use it in their own way, and people will pick up on it and start using it. For example, words like” bitch”, “skank”, “hoe” are now also used as terms as endearment. Personally, I do not use the N word, mostly because I consider it an offensive word and am just not comfortable using it. From my experience, black people are usually offended when people like myself use the word carelessly and I understand that, based on the history of the word. So, here’s my take on the usage of the word: people should use it according to the circumstances of the conversation. If you are using it as a term of endearment, my guess is that you will not be using it around someone that you are uncertain about their feelings on the subject. If you are using it as a racist comment, you shouldn’t be using it anyway.
I know that the history of the “N” word makes people understand it to be a bad word to be said. Personally I think that when people say “nigger” that it’s bad. To me it just sounds more hateful and racist because of the obvious way slave owners used it towards slaves in the past. When people say “nigga” I feel that there is no hate in it at all and that they just say it to be cool like it was mentioned in the beginning post.
I have a black roommate this year and he brings all his black friends over to the room. They call each other “nigga” all the time and sometimes I get called “nigga” too. They say it like “this nigga” or “that nigga” to talking about each other or to refer to one another. It’s just like saying “dude” like everyone else does. Saying “this dude” or “that dude” is like almost the same thing. It is just a word with no meaning behind it so I just don’t understand why some black people get so offended when someone who is not black says it. It’s just like Sam said the first day of class about how “fuck” became a bad word because we empowered it so “nigga” is just a word that shouldn’t be anything bad.
The n word is more than just a word. It has such a terrible history to it that the mention of it in the wrong context can produce incredibly angry and emotional responses. I think that the way in which the black community, at least a part of it, has “taken it back” is one way in which they are fighting their past and overcoming it. Now that is not my endorsement of the use of the word. It is far from that. I still think that the use of it is still very dangerous, but at least something is being done to help combat than past and gain some strength from something that was so hurtful.
Using the word as it is today creates some dangers however. Its permanence through society and its association with the “cool” trends and styles gives people a sense of entitlement to use it. Maybe entitlement is the wrong word, but it does definitely make it look as if it’s ok. By presenting it as it is, people lose the historical meaning and just see it as something that everyone should be allowed to do, which is where the double standard argument comes back. By using the word so casually, the double standard argument is opened up and the black community loses its leg to stand on in the argument.
I distinctly remember the day I learned that the "n" word was inappropriate. A 10 year old boy, I had heard the word uttered on television, in movies, and written in books. However, when I put it into usage in front of my older sister, she quickly scolded me. Vic taught me this was never an appropriate word to use. I questioned why. How could I have learned about this word through mainstream avenues if it was that bad? What even made the word bad? Did I offend her? Nothing made sense. Unfortunately, my sister didn't offer many good responses. Looking back, I can't blame her. Put in the same circumstance, I think I would have trouble explaining its inappropriate usage to a young child just learning the complexities of race in America.
The controversy around the “n” word really puts me off. The black community will not unite either for or against the usage of the world. At a conference I attended on diversity, a prominent black leader claimed the “n” word is the word of oppression – even stating it once prevents the forward progress of race relations. Other black leaders believe it is a sign of culture, and it should be a part of everyone’s lexicon. In entertainment, the word is commonplace. Through campus, I hear black students use it often. Stop making the excuse it matters the environment. F_ck is always a bad word. It doesn’t matter what context.
Indecision and mixed signals must end if the majority of the black community believes it is an offensive word. Whites have been left to feel uncomfortable to ask about its appropriateness and uncomfortable with its usage. If this word is so offensive, the black community as a whole must proclaim this fact. Then, they must look inside to first abolish its usage, before asking the greater community to do the same.
Honestly, I believe if we are all sitting at the race relations table, no one should be saying the “n” word in any way, not black, brown, or white. In the black community, if the worst of the worst word is now acceptable in a slang way than what next? But I guess since I’m so used to hearing it, its not that bad at all. I’m not saying I’m going to say it (being a white female), but if I hear a black person say it, I kind of just brush it off. I don’t think it’s an acceptable word to say in any matter, even with an “a” ending, but I think there are bigger issues to worry about than that word. I am though very bothered by a white person saying it. A black person saying it to another black person is one thing, but white people can’t physically be apart of that. That word has only to do with the black community so if the black community takes such a hateful word and turns it around into a term that is acceptable than good for them, but no way should a white person be saying that word to anyone.
I still cannot understand why people use derogatory words to refer to others. It is so hard for me to understand the point of it. I know for a fact that most black people do not like to be called a “nigga”, especially not from a stranger. Even if it would be between friends, the word just sounds so demeaning. For example, if someone called me a “beaner” because of the fact that I am Mexican, it would infuriate me! I would simply never let anyone, not even another Mexican call me that. My question is, why can blacks call each other “niggas” but others who are not of their same race do it too? Well perhaps it is a little unfair. My point is, why use the word? If it is not offensive to use it within the same race, then why is it offensive when others do it? I believe that if it is seen as offensive when anyone says at all, then why let people use it? People should be more conscientious of these things and not just go by what other people do, or think it is “cool” today. Many people around us will most definitely get offended if called a “nigga”, or even just by hearing it. A lot of older people will get very offended, for sure. Let’s just stop calling people names and let’s refer to their race the right way. It is such a waste of time to argue about things that can be avoided. We must call people what their race is and not make up anymore derogatory names to refer to them.
I feel like when you go up to a stranger and use the “n” word, it is obviously offensive. But when you have a brown friend and use the “n” word, they might not be as offended. Again, it does depend from person to person, because everyone has their own views and perceptions, thus even if you have a friend and use the “n” word with him, he/she may find it offensive. Also, I completely agree with the notion that brown people can call each other the “n” word and it is perceived as offensive when others use it. I do not think that is right or should be accepted at all. In my opinion, we should just not use the world at all. It was used as an offensive and unethical term, and still is portrayed that way with many.
An example of the legal context of the “n” word used is that on February 28, 2007 the New York City Council passed a resolution that symbolically banned the use of the “n” word. Also, there are no penalties of non-compliance. So it brings the question that will it prevent people from using the word and how can people be monitored if they use it or not? I completely agree that word should not be used, but I do not know if banning the use word will prevent it. But on the bright side, it does reinforce and encourage people to not use the word.
I do find it awkward, when brown people can use the “n” word and others can’t. I mean brown people have names for white people too. Agreed, it has not been used as much and as offensively as the “n” word, but people still do call them other names. So it comes out to the point where brown people should realize that they should avoid using the “n” word too. Because the other alternative is to allow non-brown people to use it, but when they use it, it can be extremely judgmental and some might take it offensively, while others might not.
Although I am white, I believe the “n” word is unacceptable for anyone to use. However, I understand the point people are making when they wonder why it is more acceptable for black people to use it towards each other. We talked about this in class a few weeks ago, and many people had mixed feelings on the issue. In my opinion, if people actually knew where the word came from decades ago, they would think twice before using it. Also, because of today’s hip hop culture and lyrics to many songs, many people believe that it is okay to use the term willingly and freely. Over the years there have been many items deemed cool by blacks and cool by whites, like said in the blog. However, that does not mean it is cool to use the “n” word. Many people believe that it is okay for blacks to use it just because they are using it with no negative connotation attached, but as soon as a white person utters the word, they are called out and looked at as racist. I see the understanding behind this because the same thing goes for comedians. It seems more acceptable for a Jewish comedian to make fun of Jews than a non-Jewish comedian. People look at that comedian differently.
I think that 'dropping the n-bomb' is such a controversial topic. This blog was really interesting and I think Sam really summed it up well by saying that white people say it because it's cool and the African American community sets the 'cool' standards in society today. I personally don't use the n-word in everyday conversation because I feel really awkward saying it since I'm a white girl. The only time I use the word is when I'm singing along to a song and it's part of the lyrics. I feel like when black musicians use the word in they lyrics, they are giving everyone else the ok to use it too in that context. However, since it is an offensive term, I don't really think that non-black people should be dropping it in everyday conversation. When I was a senior in high school, we spent an entire class period in AP English discussing whether of not we were going to say the n-word while reading a certain book out loud. It was really interesting to hear everyone's perspectives. Many of my classmates and myself thought that since the author used it to give a cultural sense and identity to his characters, we should use it to get the same effect. However, some people like my teacher were adamently against using it and completely skipped over the word while reading passages outloud to the class. I think that it is really interesting that we have gotten to a point in society where we can have discussions like that and that people can be civil about it. In response to another blogger though, I think that the double standard of the n-word is unfair. She said that she's annoyed by white people saying it, even though she acknowledges it is a double standard. I think that it's all about respect and how you use the word, but the whole double standard issue is annoying. Most people can be respectful enough to realize when it is appropriate or not to speak the n-word. This is definately a heated topic though.
This whole idea – over who is “allowed” and “not allowed” to drop the N-bomb is something that I believe has been blown out of proportion for as long as I can remember...
It’s one word – a 6-letter word that is truly offensive to a particular group of people. As a white female, I do not feel the dire need to use a word that is going to upset, offend, and enrage others. I don’t personally understand why people even make the effort to argue that it is unfair that Black people can use it, but White people cannot. I do understand the whole argument that this is a word being used by celebrities on a daily basis; it is in the most famous of rap songs, iconic comedians throw it around all of the time… but I guess I just don’t see the big deal.
Moreover, this is dilemma over why is it ok for some people to use this word and not others, is not just an issue with Black people and the N-word. While it is acceptable, very common, and oftentimes funny for Jews to call other Jews JAPS (Jewish American Prince[esses]), it is very offensive for a non-Jew would refer to someone as a JAP.
The point of the matter is, the N-word is a word Black people have a very strong tie to, and one that they don’t want other people using. Is it really that big of a sacrifice for White people to give it up and not use it?
The “n” word, a term that people feel is used freely amongst black people but hearing it come from a white person would send shudders and pain through everyone close enough to hear it. Personally, I do not understand why anyone uses it. It is a constantly heard from rap and hip-hop artists who use it freely as if it’s a term that is going out of style. This is where I get confused. These artists use it wildly and therefore I feel people have a misconceived notion about it and how often it can be used, and by whom. I personally do not understand why, if the word is found so offensive, anyone is using it to begin with. If this word is as derogatory as they say it is, then why is it every other word in a song or why are people using it at all to begin with. There is really no need to continue using it so loosely if it is so offensive when a white person turns around and says it in the same context that another black person may say it in as well. Why do we need to continue hurting one another with words like this in our vocabulary? Is there any reason why we do not just eliminate the word all together to appease both parties?
I think the word “nigger” used to be powerful, vulgar term during and before the civil rights era. But ever since the end of the civil rights movement in the 1960s, the word “nigger” has been transformed into teenage/black jargon. Many older people have a different view of the word that present day youth. Today, many people, not just black/brown people use the word “nigger” to mean “dude” or “friend.” How did this word turns from something that instilled hatred and anger to something that means a person close to you. I think a lot of it has to do with hip hop culture. A majority of teenagers today are greatly influence by this fad. In many rap lyrics, “nigger” is used freely as if this word is nothing more than a synonym for friend. The word has been downplayed so much. I think many don’t see the old implications of this word. I wonder if blacks are trying to overcome the racism that existed back then and today, by transforming the meaning of “nigger” from a negative connotation to a positive one. I would like to see where the meaning of this word transformed. Was it the start of hip-hop culture? Or did it start before that?
We had a very similar discussion like this in my discussion group section a few weeks ago. We threw around many ideas, however, we could not really come to a clear explanation for the reasons behind this. We came up with the fact that in the media, different musicians, and comics can just throw that word around and not get in any trouble for it, or in the comics case people will laugh in the context which they are using it, so people would think its cool. We said that since the people who are in “stars” in many individual’s eyes can joke around with the word and say it to their friends and on television, then many white people who are watching this will start to say it because white people want to fit in just as any other racial group and say what the stars or comics are using.
The one person in my discussion group also had an interesting story he/she shared with us. That person told us how their black friends would make fun of white people and hate on white people right in front of them. They said they said to their black friends, “Yo guys I’m sitting right here.” The black friends said back to them, “You’re not white…You’re Italian”. When reading this blog, it made me think about that story because I would pose the question then, would that person’s friends think it would be okay for them and all people of Italian decent to say the word because they “aren’t white”?
I don’t think it is appropriate for white people to drop the N-bomb, because of what the word meant in the past. The slave owners called their slaves the N-word, so I don’t think its right for white people to throw that word around, because it is disrespectful to people of color. Today people of color use the word in more of a slang way, or just a way to refer to other people of color or their friends. I think people get a lot of mixed meaning about the N-word, because it is used so much on television shows and lots of rap songs and it seems like its okay to say it to be cool. I’m sure many white people who listen to rap and stuff try to use that n-word in order to be cool or hip, but that still doesn’t make it okay to say. If a black stranger heard a white person drop the N-bomb I think the black person would find it to be very offensive and disrespectful. I think it would be because of what the white people did to people of color in the past and people of color still feel bothered about the past, therefore I feel white people should not drop the N-bomb.
The N word is definitely one of the more controversial words of our time. I can think of few words that draw as passionate a reaction on their own, whether or not it is even directed toward someone or used in a specific context. While we can go on and on arguing whether or not it is “fair” or “cool” it seems apparent that the use of the word and the debate surrounding it are not going away. It can be found in many film scripts and song lyrics, and depending on who you surround yourself with you may hear it multiple times a day in conversation, or sadly, the receiving end of an insult by this word. Because I am white, I have never been the target of an N bomb. But I guess I am saddened that there is a black kid out there who may be like me in a lot of ways who can be called a “N” for no other reason than the fact that he has a different skin color. I can’t really remember a time where I was insulted to my face for no other reason than my race, and if I could I don’t know what specific word would be used. If someone from another race tried to insult me by calling me a cracker a probably wouldn’t really react, but I guess it is different with the N word because our society is very aware of its connotation, especially when it is used in a hateful way. So while we cannot control its use and the people who use them, we can control what we say and how we choose to deal with these people.
The use of the N-word has become very liberal in today’s society. As Sam stated it’s used by the coolest black entertainers and by them using it liberally in their shows and sketches and songs they are providing the younger generations with an excuse to continue using the word that was and still is a hateful term. In my opinion no one should be allowed to use a word that was used in such a hateful way for such a long time. Even though blacks use it as a moniker for each other the word still has a hateful meaning behind it. Many black leaders are urging the younger generations to stop using the N-word and are trying to educate them. Bill Cosby is one of the leaders that are trying to stop the spread of the word in popular culture. I agree with him and words that have hateful meanings should not be turned around and used as a way to be “cool” with each other. Is wearing a Nazi uniform to a Halloween party considered cool? I don’t know ask the British prince that did it and was subsequently chastised by the media and embarrassed the entire royal family.
I have never used the N-word and I really don't plan to ever. While my vocabulary is pretty extensive as far as curse words and other such types of words, I do draw the line at racial slurs. I understand how black people are able to use it and its ok amongst other black people because they are taking something negative and turning it around so it is positive. It is a coping strategy and is human nature I think.
If you look at mainstream music, even eminem refuses to use it in his songs. He has openly stated that he would not use the n-word, even though he is perfectly willing to kill his wife, rape his mom and all this other stuff. I think it is really interesting what he chooses to be on and off limits, but it is a testament to the race conversation and past racism. I do not like saying the word, I don't like hearing the word, and regardless of the "a" or "er" ending I still think it is disrespectful for a non-black person to say it. I don't think its a "cool" word. For me personally the n-word is along the same lines as the f-word for homosexuals. If I heard a homosexual saying whats up f** to another homosexual and they were friends, it would probably irk me temporarily but I would understand how it can be taken unoffensively. I think I pretty much agree with what most of the bloggers have said on this topic, there is a time, place, and specific person that is able to use certain words, and its a double standard yes but not a double standard that I particulary mind or am bothered by because it is coming out of something that was negative and offensive for so long.
My personal belief on the ‘n’ word is that it can and should be used by pretty much anyone who wants to, EXCEPT that it must be used as ‘nigga’ and not as the much more derogatory ‘nigger’. Nigga just like motherfucker, shit, etc. is just another word of explicit nature. To forbid the use of a word because it belongs to a certain color of individuals is ridiculous, and I feel that the majority of the rational minded blacks out there feel the same way. They would on the same token not want to be told they couldn’t use the word ‘cracker’ or ‘spick’ because it’s not ‘their’ word. I believe that if someone wants to say it, whether or not it is to be ‘cool’ or not, they should say it and speak their mind. It is much better to be forthright and honest about something, rather than hiding it and monitoring your speaking, only to accidentally blurt it out in the absolutely wrong context. This is what will lead to problems. When someone is trying so hard to not say a word, and they end up saying it in the wrong tense, such as ‘nigger’, that’s when a black person has the right to fuck you up.
But don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying we should all just go up to a group of black people and start dropping ‘nigga’ left and right. But to be in a friendly, informal atmosphere with a black person or some black people in a group, I feel like if you mean to say ‘nigga’ then say ‘nigga’. I had a personal experience with this only a week or two ago. A mostly black sorority had a fundraising event/party at my fraternity house and there were many young black individuals at the party. My roommate and I were talking with one of them and asked for a cigarette, and he turned out to have Newports. My roommate then dropped the ‘N’ bomb twice while commenting on cigarettes, and who smokes what kinds, etc. And believe it or not, the black guy did not pull out a gun and shoot us, or call up his friends and jump us. Many people say that’s what will happen, and it’s really nothing but a stupid stereotype. A rational black college student is not going to be so mad about a word that he’s going to try to kill you or something. In times when we all know than anyone and everyone says what they want, and with people saying nigga left and right, we should not try to hide it even further. It’s already out there and over time people will come to accept it as just another term in our language. It has already started to be somewhat of a replacement for ‘friends’, ‘buddies’, ‘boys’, etc. and is used widely by all races and cultures in our generation. Once people relax and stop trying to make a big deal out of nothing but a word, we can all be free in what we want to say. ‘Nigga’ will just be another word in the dictionary, instead of a term of racial hatred. Tupac said it best…"Nigger - a black man with a slavery chain around his neck; Nigga - a black man with a gold chain on his neck." Whereas nigger is derogatory and racist and should not be used by us, ‘Nigga’ is nothing more than word to represent the ‘coolness’ that the younger generation strives for. As we all continue to say this, it will begin to be more and more accepted and allowed in society.
The “N” world is obviously a very offensive word when used derogatorily toward an African American person. However, it has become acceptable in today’s society for African Americans to call each other the “N” word. I have various black friends who I have played basketball with over the years, and they often use the word amongst each other. The word does have a touchy past, but in today’s world it’s used interchangeably with “bro” or “man.” Like Sam said, it has become cool to use the word; however, I personally feel awkward when someone drops the “N” bomb. There are so many other words that can be used in its place, so I just don’t understand why it has becomes socially acceptable.
As for the double standard, I don’t think it really matters because white people shouldn’t be using in the “N” word anyway. If black people choose to refer to each other as “niggas,” then it is their right. The only problem is that when others hear the word being thrown around so much, some might not think it’s a big deal to drop the “N” bomb here or there. However, the word is very demeaning towards black people and hopefully its use will die out and not be “cool” for long. It is a very powerful term, and although I’m not of African American descent, I know I would be offended and angry if a white person used it around me. Many black people are sensitive to racial slurs due to our country’s past enslavement of African Americans. It is essential for black people to stand up against racism and never forget their ancestors’ history in order to prevent anything like what occurred in the American South years ago.
I agree that many people see urban African American youth as the “epitome” of cool. I remember in my section the other week, we had a discussion on the “n” word and some interesting points were brought up. BET, Black Entertainment Television, broadcasts music videos mainly in the “hip hop” culture and follows these artists in their various endeavors. What is ironic is that most of the viewers of these programs (I’m not saying anything about other programs that do not focus on the hip-hop community) are suburban white youth. Does this make any sense, as this channel is marketed towards blacks according to its name? Why do suburban white youth watch BET and mimic/try to emulate what they see on television? I guess they want to be “cool.”
Another interesting point I actually brought up in my section was the “n” word is similar to other curse words. In some point in human history, someone decided that a certain word was derogatory and therefore everyone followed the trend and agreed. Let’s say the word “doorknob” was a curse word and so saying something like “go doorknob yourself” instead of “go ‘f’ yourself” would be highly offensive. The “n” word is a little different in that it was originally geared towards a certain race (obviously those of African descent or those who appear “black” or with dark skin), and so this is more offensive towards a specific people/race compared to the “f” word which is not discriminatory to whom it offends.
Both the “f” word and the “n” word have negative connotations but people decided to change the “n” word as a term of endearment when used as “nigga” compared to “nigger.” I’m not saying it is wrong or right but I personally use the word “nigga” quite a lot, though only with friends. In the sense that I use it I am not being “racist” but rather acknowledging my peers/friends. Being a “person of color,” Indian to be specific, I have used it with black people as well, but only after/if they use it with me. I would never use the word to offend someone and therefore I have no problem with people doing the same (using it as a term of endearment) but used offensively, I think is wrong.
I don’t like when the “n” word is used by anyone, no matter what your race is. It is something that is clearly offensive to some people under certain circumstances so I think we just shouldn’t use it at all. It is too confusing to distinguish those people who it doesn’t bother and under what circumstances it is ok and not ok. Sometimes I hear people use the word as a joke or something, and that even bothers me; I will never be comfortable with people saying it.
From what I can gather, it seems to me that Black people think it is ok to use the word among other Black people because they have a shared understanding of what that word means when they use it, and it is not something offensive. However, it seems White people shouldn’t use the word because they are not a part of the Black culture and therefore do not have that shared understanding. This means that White people could use it offensively, and many times do when they do use it. I can understand all of this, but I still think it is just as racially offensive for a White person to use the “n” word derogatively as a Black person to say “well, you’re not Black, so you can’t use this word” (even if it wasn’t being used derogatively).
I don’t think that it’s a good idea to use the “N-bomb” at all. I’m white and come from a predominately white area and it’s just not a word that is heard in our town very much. I understand the fact that many b lack people don’t like to hear the word, but also I sometimes find it hard to understand how someone who is black could be so offended by that word if it was said by a white person and then turn right around and use it to refer to a friend or something. For a word with such an evil past, it sure has made its way right back into American culture. My roommate is a big fan of rap and I can think of dozens of CDs he has that are full of that word. It doesn’t seem to bother him and it doesn’t seem to bother any of the artists or people that put the music on MTV. But if someone who wasn’t black were to say it in the media, it would sure cause a huge outrage. I think for us to move forward in the whole idea of inequality and racism, that the word should be phased out of use altogether.
-Dan Kociola
I find it amusing that one of the most controversial issues in race relations, happens to be over a word. Just a word. But behind that word lies years of hate and discrimination. The only problem is that the meaning of the word has changed so significantly over time.
Although hatred and discrimination still exist all too prevalently in the world today, the n-word is rarely ever used by society to portray that hatred. Instead, it has become more of a greeting term much like “bro” or “dude”.
However, it is only black people who can call their bros and dudes the n-word. I personally don’t have a problem with not being allowed by society to say the word, but I understand completely why the argument persists.
Sure, if you use the n-word to belittle and discriminate against a black person, it is a terrible use of language to hurt another individual. But fortunately that is not the case most of the time anymore.
Instead of getting worked up about a word, people need to pay far more attention to the meaning behind the word. Using the word does not make people racist, unless they intend it for that purpose. In the end, it is not the word itself, but the meaning and intent with which it is spoken.
A “racial signifier of cool” is opposite of what I have come to think about the “N-bomb.” When I hear it being used, I cringe—my belief, personally, is that the “N-bomb” is one of the only curse words left. Other swear words are used so much by comedians and artists in the media, that their piercing power has become somewhat dulled. In fact, people you pass everyday have begun to use them constantly in their daily conversations, sometimes not stating an entire thought without dropping at least one. I mean I do not know the context to the conversations I overhear that our drenched in curse words, but I find it hard to believe that every single one of those people is really THAT angry (at say, 11 am) that they find it necessary to curse seemingly-uncontrollably.
Maybe it is because I come from a pretty non-diverse background (high school) where my peers did not have to defend themselves against a large black or brown population in relation to the words they chose to use, or maybe because in reality they [my white peers] did not use the “N-bomb” often—but either way, people in my immediate/close circle of friends have not voiced any complaint about the double standard for the use of the word. In fact, I think most would shy away from using it, like me, because of a feeling or belief that it is (and one of the only) “still piercing” curse words.
This has to be one of the most confusing words to me, because I can't decide how I feel about its usage. I completely agree with Darlena Ogoke's post when she says it bothers her more when she hears a white person saying it. But also, I agree that I'm not anybody's mother either, so I'm not that person who get furious when they hear that word said and preaches to people to not say that word. I also agree with Sam's point when he says that there are many other words that are okay for only friends and family to use but not others. So I agree that when Black friends use it with one another it seems more acceptable, because they know the context in which they are using it any what it really means to one another. But then when I think about it, it seems somewhat hypocritical for anybody to get angry when say a group of white friends are calling each other that, because perhaps they, too, are using it in a context that they just understand it means "cool" or "friend" or something that is not derogatory at all, so technically they should be allowed to, too. All in all, it's a never ending circle of an argument that I can see both people who agree with and do not agree with the word, but what I like best is what Sam said in class. He said that like any form of communication it depends on the situation and the people involved, and to know when and not when to say it. For instance, calling someone you just met your "nigga" may not be the best time to use the word. However, people of race, any sex any anything that have established a relationship with one another and are in the right context to use the word positively without offending the other person or with the possibility that they are going to take it as a derogatory term, I believe it is okay to use. Having made that argument, my personal choice is still not to use the word myself and preferably for people around me not to use the word either.
The “n” word is always going to be a topic that is up for debate. Some people think it’s okay to use because black people use it, while there are white people who think it is okay to use because black use the word. Before this class I believed that if black people were allowed to use it all the time then there was no reason to get offended if white people do. I believed that if it was a word that made black people so upset then they shouldn’t say it themselves. But then during lecture Sam brought up a good point, people call their close friends and family different names that they would never call anyone else. For example, I jokingly call my sister a slut and an idiot all the time, but if someone else where to say those words to her it would make her and I very upset and offended. How is that different than black people getting offended when white people use the ‘N’ word? This is one of those things that is never going to get resolved because there are always going to be white people who think it is okay to use it and black people that are going to be offended by its use.
The “n” word is quite an interesting topic among race relations. I find it kind of funny that all you have to do is replace the “er” with an “a” and all of a sudden it goes from one of the most hateful mean-spirited insults that you could say to someone to a word that was used countless times in 50 cent’s latest hit song. I do believe that there is a bit of a double standard to this word. I feel that if one version of the word is unacceptable then all versions are unacceptable. A good comparison to this is the game of football. If a referee calls a holding penalty on one team he should call a holding penalty on the other team when he sees it. It should not matter whether this team is going through a rough season and deserves a break. I think that one of the main reasons for this is because of all the hardship that African Americans have had to endure. They tend to get a free pass because of this. Another reason would be that white people are afraid to stand up and say something for fear of being labeled of racist. Either way this is an offensive word no matter who says it and how it’s said.
I think that no matter your race, white or black, you can both agree that the “N” word is the most derogatory word to call a black person. In today’s society you can hear that word being said all over among blacks to other blacks. The difference is the ending. They do not use the “-er” ending but instead add an “a”. Growing up in New York and having a predominately black area all my guy friends would use the “a” ending when referring to each other. They did not use it as a derogatory statement but as a means of friendship and camaraderie. Even our white guy friends always would say that word to blacks guys and amongst each other and it was socially acceptable. It was more of the context and the fact they were all friends that this was acceptable. If some random white guy came up to them and said that word I do not think they would of accepted it as much. Personally I do not think the word should be said at all because then it makes a gray area and people do not know when they can say it or not. It is an offensive word to most people so it should not be said among blacks to other blacks either because some people will think oh if they are saying it to each other then it is not a big deal. There are so many other words that you can express your friendship to use other than the “n” word.
In my experiences of being around both white people and people of color, 9/10 times it is not acceptable for the white person to use the “N” word. I don’t want to label this situation a double standard because the origin of the derogatory word would draw a negative vibe to me if I was black, even if there was an “A” at the end. As we have discussed in our discussion group, I think that the “N” word was obtained from it’s original hateful meaning and reused as a sign of closeness or even yet coolness within the black culture. Growing up in the age where rap and hip-hop ruled the airwaves, I got an earful of the word and still neglect to say it. I don’t feel comfortable because I know the perplexity of its origin and I don’t really think I have the right to. I have black friends that allow other white friends to say it, because it truly does mean “you’re cool with me” or “you’re in” to certain people.
Pop culture is delivered to both black and white households, so as music artists it needs to be a precaution prior to writing lyrics to their catchy songs. Whether or not a listener is black or white, they are going to recite the lyrics to a “hip” song. I think that it lays in the decision of people of color to decide what can and can not be said. Whether or not it’s okay for a close friend that’s white to say the word as a sign of gratitude is not something that can be up to us that haven’t had to struggle with the original context of the word.
I find the n-word to be a terrible word. It is considered profanity yet many blacks and some whites use it. Besides my parents teaching me that it is a very degrading word, I still personally view it as vile. I cringe when someone says it, especially when blacks do, because it was originally used against them! Some people say that words are just a bunch of letters and they are allowed to say what they want because they don’t “mean” anything. Well words do have meaning because of history. I hear teens complain that they don’t want to be looking around the room every time to see if there is anyone they would offend and so they don’t bother filtering their language. Well people deserve respect, so if you are at a football game then you should behave accordingly. So if you still want to use the profane n-word, despite its terrible history, then you should at least respect people around you. And I don’t see why whites want to use it; they need to get over themselves and find a new way to say hi to people. You should probably not be using words that you wouldn’t use in your grandmother’s presence anyways.
I do believe that there is some sort connection with using the N-word and people thinking it has some “cool” connotation to it. I think that if we see a person use it around black people and the conversation continues as normal we see that person with a higher “cool” factor to them. I always find it odd when a person uses the N-word and gives the excuse that “’I’m allowed to say it” or “My black friend said I can say it” as if you need permission to say that word. I think you should the word if you feel you should use the word and not because someone has given you “permission” to say it. If the only reason you are going to say the N-word is because you think someone else is ok with it then you really are just using it to look cool. I have grown up using the word because of the area that I grew up with and my friends but I didn’t use the word just because they did. I used the word because I grew up with people who said it regularly whether it was in school or just hanging out with my friends. Today I still use the word but I find that I only use it around my high school friends or when I am home. Up here at college I rarely use the word and even though I would feel comfortable saying it I don’t. When I go home I use the word with my friends without even noticing it and I rarely think about whether or not I should be saying it. The way I see it is if you have to force yourself to say the N-word or if you feel even slightly uncomfortable saying it to someone then you shouldn’t be using it whether you are black or white.
Honestly, I don't get why the N word is such a hot topic these days. I get the idea that people often want to take negative words and symbols and "own" them, turning them into something "positive". However, I think that this whole situation seems pretty stupid. I think that by using this word so much, black people are just not letting the word die and be eliminated from daily speech (anyone's speech). Personally, I never use any variation of this word (I am white) I don't see any reason for doing so. I would not want anyone using "kike" (i am Jewish), so I don't really get the hoopla of the N word.
I think that as long as black people keep using the word, they can't get too upset when white people use it in the same context. Its cultural thing, and yes, some people think its cool.
I think that it is just a word that needs to either be accepted with the new, unoffensive meaning, or just be dropped out of speech today. I personally think that a white person sounds really dumb saying it, however, I also think that it doesnt really add anything to a black person's speech.
Wouldn't it be positive for words that have/had hateful connotations to be eliminated from use completely?
The whole "n-word" debate is a very complicated issue, even with African Americans. Some young Black kids are conflicted and, sometimes, hypocrites over the usage of the word and who can use it. One of my best friends uses that word a lot. She's a fan of it. But, whenever a white person says it, even when they say it with the "a" inflection, she takes it as a personal insult. According to her, only black people have the right to say it. I hate to admit it, but I think that my friend is being a hypocrite. If she can say it, why can't anyone else. I guess I can understand that when it comes from a person that's white, it brings us back to the slave days, but shouldn't it be just as insulting if it comes from another black people. I mean, if we are supposed to be rising above the stereotype, then why insult ourselves? If the word has become an accepted way to address your friends, then it shouldn't exclude certain people. Basically, if you feel you can say "nigga" then so can anyone else.
And yes, the inflection DOES matter. "Nigger" is completely different from "nigga." While people say the "a" ending is ignorance on the part of black people, the "er" ending is a much greater ignorance on those that still have those racist feels. So, if you want to be part of that "epitome" of cool, then just don't be ignorant. Know what you're saying, know the history behind it, be respectful of other people's choice to use it, and be understanding of why others may disapprove.
We had a similar conversation in my discussion class. We were talking about who can and cannot use it and why some groups can say it or not. I told them that I use it all the time and do not think that people of other races should use it. Then I made a correction and said that I would not mind if a Latino or Hispanic used the word “nigga”. When asked why it is okay for them to use it and not any other race I explained that there are many instances where Latinos and Blacks get grouped together and we tend to go through the same things when it comes to race and feel comfortable with them so to hear them use it is not a big deal to me. There were people that thought it was not fair that a word can only be used by a certain group of people. Then there were others who did not think that there was a purpose of the word so what’s problem anybody using it. I agree with the statement that white people think that it’s cool to use “nigga”. But in my head I think if you think that the word has no purpose, why do you need to use it? I think there are people that want to use the word just because they are denied using it in a sense. It could be any word or anything. Tell someone that they cannot say something or do something, and they are going to want to do or say it. Let’s say that all of a sudden white people are allowed to say “nigga” anytime they want around anyone. They may use for a little while but in a month or two it wouldn’t be cool anymore and they would move on to something else. At times I just want to say to white people it’s never going to be acceptable for them to use the word “nigga” ever so just get over.
This word is a really interesting word. In fact, every word you can think of that is derogatory towards a particular group is interesting. I think it’s a philosophical argument, really. You can argue that it’s just a word, and that it doesn’t mean anything, but then what does any word mean? If our words didn’t have meanings, we would have no way of communicating. In our discussion group last week, we discussed the difference between exercising Freedom of Speech and going over the line, whatever that line may be. It was argued that it’s an all-or-nothing deal, and that to put a cap on it would defeat the purpose of it in the first place. I think the same goes for words. If we go around in circles saying that it’s a word and it doesn’t mean anything, then what do any of our words mean?
Fortunately, I’ve never had the unpleasant experience of being called anything like that. I’m white, so no one would ever call me a nigger, and likewise I would never call anyone else that. But I think if black people want to call other black people by that word, they shouldn’t be looked down on for it; it’s their prerogative. It’s just one of those things that you can really only understand if you are in the group. I know the whole point of this class is to begin to tear down the groups, but I also know that every group has things you need to know if you are in the group. Like inside jokes, jokes that only you and your friends understand. It’s kind of like that, but it’s not a joke.
I feel that this was a very important conversation to have because it is one that I have thought about on numerous occasions but have never really understood. It was incredibly helpful to get perspectives from other people so that even if I did not agree with their opinion, I was able to see where they were coming from. The one thing that I did learn from this conversation, although I do not necessarily think that it is fair, is that when you are the person oppressed by the derogatory term (whether it is the “N” word or another racial slur directed at a different group), it makes it okay for you to use it. This holds true for any word or group it seems. A gay person using a slur is not countered with the same anger as a straight person who would use it against a member of the gay community. The same goes for people within other minority groups who have “taken the word back” and use it as a part of their vernacular. Many people have the assumption that if you are going to use a word, then everyone should have the same right to that word, but that is not an opinion that holds true in our current society for those who have been oppressed by that word. Certain words have been imbued for centuries with so much hate that it is hard to hear that word coming from the mouth of another with anything but a sense of distain if they are not within the same oppressed group. I feel that although slurs are thrown around casually, they are hateful and harmful, infiltrating our society and giving the impression that it’s acceptable to say them, when in my opinion; there is nothing to justify it.
I think the whole idea of white people wanting to be able to use the n-word like black people can is just white kids trying to prove they’re “not racist”. It’s the same as someone saying “Oh I can’t be racist, I have a black friend.” But instead, it’s “Oh I can’t be racist, I can use the n-word in a cool way and not insultingly, look how not racist I am”. There’s no prize, no benefit to being allowed to say the word, it’s just another example of white youth trying to copy the unknown and therefore ‘exotic’ culture of black youth. Why would you want to use that word? What satisfaction do you get out of being able to casually drop the n-word in a non-derogatory fashion into a conversation? Because I see the use of the n-word by white youth in this way, I think it’s pathetic and slightly insulting when white kids use it (and I myself am white). I’m not saying that there are words that some people can say and other people aren’t allowed to, a word is just a word. But I see white youth trying to poorly imitate black youth by using the n-word just as they copy black youth by wearing Timberlands, listening to rap, etc. In this response, I’m not taking into consideration the derogatory connotation of the n-word, just the usage of it by white youth to prove their ‘coolness’ and the fact that they ‘can’t possibly be racist.’ I’ve actually heard someone say that before, and I couldn’t help but laugh.
In terms of the n-word I don’t know if I necessarily agree with the fact that white people want to use because in today’s day it is a signifier of cool. I myself don’t use the word and don’t really have any desire to use it. There are plenty of other words out there that can be used that don’t cause so much controversy and come from so much hatred. I do think however that people of every color should be able to use it, and every other racial slur for that matter, because the bottom line is that they are just words. However, because I myself am white I have never known what it’s like to have a racial slur spoken to me for the purpose of hurting me, so I think that part of me feels this way about racial slurs because I just don’t know how it feels. I also do feel like sometimes it is a double standard for black people to be able to use the word and then become angry at white people for using. Don’t get me wrong I feel that white people who use it in a derogatory fashion that by all means black people have very right to get angry. However if people use it in a friendly way and not meant for hate purposes than there’s no reason to become angry at that person for simply using a word. I think the problem really lies in that people who aren’t black use it in the friendly ways and don’t really know the true meaning behind it and why black people become so offended by it, in other words they are ignorant, which is the problem with most racial issues.
I believe that in the 21st century neither white people or black people should use the "n" word because the word is derogatory. Throughout the history of this country white people have used the "n" word as a derogatory reference to black people, so there is deep underlying emotion behind it and white people need to remember that. However, even though I do believe that neither whites nor blacks should use the “n” would the idea of a double standard is still in the back of my mind. So when I hear blacks using the “n” word I still feel that it is wrong but at the same time it doesn’t really affect me; however, when I hear a white person or even just a person who isn’t black say the term I quickly get offended. So in essence there is that double standard, and the only way that it can be changed is if neither blacks nor whites use the word. However, it is at the feet of the music industry and the film industry, they play such a large part in the influence of people, and youth in particular. These industries have turned a historically derogatory word into something that is now seen as cool, which in some ways has led people to believe that the “n” word is socially acceptable. But the word really isn’t socially acceptable to many people, and that is where we enter conflict. So whenever you feel the urge to say the “n” word just throw in a “homie” or “brother”, what ever happened to those words?
I know the N-word has a lot of negative history behind but now it does seem like a cool thing to say to each other when greeting someone. I really don’t see that much of a problem saying it to each other. Back home my friends always say it to each other all the time and when no its not anything serious. No one really cares about it that much when we’re hanging out, sometimes they joke around and say “that’s my one for today” when they drop the N-word. I guess it just matters what type of area you come from, the area I came from was very diverse and it was alright to say the word. No one really takes offense to it. I remember during football season they would say ching ching and I would reply back nig nig it was really all just messing around. In today’s society you see it used all the time on comedy shows and in the lyrics of songs by rappers. I guess the word has evolved into a cool thing to say but I still see why people have problems with it said to each other. The word just has too much negative history behind but I it really just depends on the people around you.
I think that the N word should never be used anymore because it puts down people that are black because of what happened a long time ago with the slaves. The N word brings up the past about the blacks and how they were slaves and so shouldn’t be used anymore in the world. The blacks out there shouldn’t be using it either because they should know that it puts them down because of what happened in the past with the slaves and other things like that. Also it’s not alright for brown people (if you are talking about Indians) to drop the N-bomb which was said in the first blog post. I am Indian and if someone in my group of Indian friends said one of those words it would be wrong and I wouldn’t like it and neither would anyone else around us. Some of the foreign kids in my group of friends do say those words but they aren’t used to the sensitivity of everyone here because they aren’t from around here but they know to only say it when they aren’t around anyone else but the same group because they know now that it is a bad word to use around others.
I personally do not like to use the “n” word; I just feel a little uncomfortable saying it. Though my closest friends and my brother use it all the time and we live in a very diverse community. I don’t get bothered by the word when other use it anymore, I mean I’m Hispanic and I have no connection to the word, but at times I do wonder why people want to use it? My friends at home trying to be the “cool” kids use the word a lot, my two best friends call each other “my nigga” and they are both white guys, and even to our black friend they call him that and he doesn’t get offended at all. He even calls them the same thing back. To them this word means that they are tight, that they friends, that they are brothers. Often they also call me that, I just laugh but I’ve never called them that back, I guess I’m not “cool” enough to be saying these things yet. But my brother who is just a couple of years younger than me also uses this word, he is Hispanic and he uses it around his close Hispanic friends.
So I think that my generation (or at least where I live) we are growing past the insulting meaning of the word and we are feeling freer to use. Since it has been such a prohibited word for so many years, now some people might feel “cool” to use that word because they are past that negative meaning of it and they have turned it around.
Growing up in Philadelphia, PA, where there are mostly African Americans in the public schools, I have heard the term "nigga" very often. There is no individual outside of the race that is told not to use the term but generally only blacks use it. There was one person however, that was Chinese that I know of who used the term frequently. He once said it to a black person who does not use the term "nigga" at all, and so he did get offended but did not make a big deal. For the most part it seems like those who take the greatest offense are the people who see differences in people of different races. I know that I have seen a few people who are outside of the black race who have said the term but there is no sign of offense from the receiver. Therefore the people who do not take offence to the term do not see any differences in the person who says the term. For the most part I do feel like the term segregates races, but it invites people who seem to be similar to them, aside from race, to join them. It’s just a matter of if the person of another race is willing to take the risk in using the word.
After reading what Sam wrote for this blog I would have to say I disagree that the N-word is signifying "coolness". I have never liked the sound of that word and when I hear it coming out the mouth of a person of any color. Yes it is used by many rappers and comedians but I still do not think that using that N-word will make anyone “cool”. I have never thought it was a double standard for white people to not use that word. If I ever hear this word I always feel a little bit uncomfortable, I don’t even like reading it out loud from a book. It doesn’t even matter in what context it is used and whether it has an “er” or an “a” ending, I prefer to never hear it at all. I know Sam also said that sometimes the word is used between friends, never meaning anything derogatory at all however I would have to say that I have never heard a group of people who are disabled call each other “retard” or people who might be gay or lesbian call each other “fag” or “dyke”. I think the N-word falls into the same category as those words do. Yes maybe because we do hear N-word in songs or from comedians, people might think it is ok to use however I think it is still an offensive word. I believe that there will never be a situation where I would think that using the N-word is acting “cool.”
I would somewhat agree with the post. As a black male I never really understood why it was such a big deal for white people to want to use the word "nigga." I do use the word, when talking to my black friends at times. Really can't justify why I do or when I started using it, but now that we are on the subject, why would white people want to use it. I understand that the Hip-Hop scene has become the "cool look" for many youths black and white. But knowing the history and past use of the word why would any white people want to use the word, even in a "cool" way. In my opinion that's just asking for a problem. If "cracker" became a "cool" word for white people to call each other, that doesn't mean I would want to go around calling white people cracker. If they (white people) got mad, I wouldn't go around screaming how racist things where, I wouldn't scream double standards. I would leave it as is, and accept the fact that some not all, white people felt disrespected when us ( black folk) used the word. Just the thoughts of a black man.
I think it’s true that dropping the N-bomb has to some extent become a measure of cool in American society. However I don’t think this argument holds up anywhere else in the world at least not the places I’ve been. I lived in Holland for ten years and I don’t think I ever heard anyone use the word, I’m not sure the word even exists in Dutch. In Sweden it’s just a normal word. “Neger”, which is the equivalent of the word, is used as a completely normal word. It doesn’t imply coolness at all but at the same time it doesn’t imply racial inequality either.
I wonder why this is? Why has the n-bomb always been such a powerful word in America when it’s so insignificant in other countries? And the fact that only black people can say the word is extremely unfair. It almost seems like backwards racism.
I feel like many white people, at least in my experience, grew up learning the harmful impact of the word “nigger” and taught not to use it. Therefore it feels awkward to use is or “nigga” and therefore try to stay away from it. Personally I’ve never felt the urge to say the word. On the other hand, if I wanted to say the word I would definitely feel a block there.
I think the N-bomb should either be open for everyone to use or people should stop using it all together.
At first, I was thinking that it does seem hypocritical if black people can use the “n” word and white people cannot. Like if there is a black musician that says it in their lyrics is it wrong for me to sing along and say to word too? On our way to soccer once, my friend thought I used the “n” word when singing along with a song. I told him (he’s black) that I didn’t and he pretended to get offended though, but then said he was joking and didn’t care, especially because I was just singing along with a song. That made me question if some people find it offensive if they hear it in the lyrics, or even more so if someone is singing along with it. And if you are black is it okay for you to use that terminology?
But in another sense, I realized that I make fun of myself, but I’d rather other people not make fun of me. And I’ll make fun of my family but if someone else says something about us I’ll defend us and might get a little offended. Not that this is exactly the same, but sometimes it is okay for people to say stuff about themselves that might be taken as offensive if said by someone outside of that group.
I am a white male and I personally feel that the “N” word is very offensive and it makes me uncomfortable when I hear someone use the “N” word. It does not matter if the person is white or African American who uses the word; it still makes me uncomfortable when I hear it. I do not know exactly why African Americans use this term so often, but my best guess is that it has to do with the culture in which African Americans are raised. Maybe it has to do with the usage of the “N” by African American comedians, artists, and actors. I don’t agree that there is a double standard for white people using the “N” word because this word has negative connotations and should not be used by anybody regardless of one’s race. I feel when white people use the “N” word when trying to be cool, they just do not know what it means and the negative connotation that it brings. People who use the word in my opinion just use the word because they hear it in the main stream media whether it be in music, television shows, or movies and they decide that it is acceptable to use this word. I don’t think white people use the “N” word s because they want to be cool, I think they just don’t know what it actually means.
We have come so far in society to even have this word represent an issue. It should not represent an issue. Nigger. There I said it. How did it make you feel that a brown aka Indian person said NIGGER. It's a word. Beyond the n-i-g-g-e-r, the only meaning the word has is what we put into it. Beyond those four letters, it's all up to our perception, how we want to feel about the word. I understand it has historical significance, I understand it represents hate and past wounds, but by giving importance to this word, we're just picking at the wound. Words are words, and nothing more.
I also do not understand how it is "cool" to say "Nigga". What in the world is "nigga"? Are we actually serious about this word? In my opinion, it's a newly man-made word, like other words, but I feel this has a positive connotation. Although I feel that one has to be dumb if he or she feels "cool" using it, but I do feel a positive feeling this word. I feel that "nigga" unites the white and black community because even white people are allowed to say it. I just think white people want to be "in". Black culture is cool and fun and they want their passport to black culture, and "Nigga" is the security password into the world. But what really astonishes me is how important words become in the race-relations. There are so many words that we make up and we give importance to. It's a negative way to identify yourself in my opinion because it separates you from others. Words create walls. Words create misunderstandings. There has to be a better way to identify ourselves besides using the words like Nigger, Ginder, cracker, and whatever else it is that we say. I don't have any solutions, I am still learning and making mistakes as well. We all are. But for once, just step out of the box and look at words with no meaning, You will see how funny they sound. And we should move on to heal the wounds.
I think it is safe to say that most people in this day an age have said the word nigger. In my junior english class in high school we were faced with this dilemma of if it was ok for people of all races in this class to say this word when we read "The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn." A lot of people who were opposed to speak the word out loud in a classroom setting were scolded by our teacher, because she said that it was important that we said the word because it was the way it was written in the book. Still, some students opposed because they said that they were told to not say that word out loud. In the end the teacher really had no way to force people to say the word, and people did not say it, but that was one of the first times that i had actually been faced with the debate of under what context is it ok for someone to call someone or say the word nigger. But that was still in a classroom setting. I don't think in mixed company it is ok to use that word ever. I think this because of how uncomfortable it makes everyone in the room. Especially when there are brown or black people present. If that word is ever spoken in mixed company everyones attention always goes to the black or brown person in the room to see there reaction. And that is why I think we should just not use that word. There is so much meaning behind it, and people can get really hurt by it even if it is not used in a hurtful way. And that is why I think we should just keep that word out of our vocabulary when we are with people that we are not comfortable with.
The “n” word and all the debate surrounding it has always been something I have been interested in. For one, I see no difference between the “n” word ending in “er” or “a”. Therefore, when white people justify the word’s usage by claiming that it is okay because they only said the word ending with “a”, I find their argument ludicrous. Even though I am white, I do not believe that white people should be able to say the word all of the time like people of color can. However, I do not think people of color should have the right to get angry when they over hear white people saying it amongst themselves, as long as it is not said in a derogatory manner towards someone of color. If the word is not meant to hurt anyone, then it is just any old word in my opinion.
As for the reason white people want to use the “n” word in today’s culture, I have to agree with Sam one-hundred percent. Coolness has been centralized around the black/urban culture for the last couple of decades during which I have grown up. Middle and upper-class white kids always want to be looked at as “hip” and “cool”, which is why you can walk down College Avenue and hear every other car being driven by a white student blasting hip-hop with the “n” word blasted out ten to twenty times a song. Hip-hop, along with being black in general, is thought of as cool nowadays. Sam hit the nail on the head. White people do not want to say the “n” because they want it to be fair, but because they want to be able to act cool. I believe it is odd that a word which once had such derogatory and hurtful meaning could have transformed into an indicator of “coolness” where saying it can get you credit from your peers. Overall, it was a very good read, and I agree with a lot that Sam had to say.
Alexander Wander
I do not understand why people still use the "n" word. If it is so offensive no one should be able to use the word. Even if you are black it still is wrong to use it. It is like a double standard that black people can use the word and it be alright but when a person of another race uses the word it is the end of the world. I think that we should just erase the word out of our vocabulary. It does not make you cool using the "n" word. It just makes people look ignorant and makes me loose respect for that person that uses the "n" word. If the word is really offensive to black people they should not use the word either. It gives a false impression that it is ok. I also do not understand why people like Chris Rock and Dave Chappelle can use the “n” word in their comedy acts and still think that it is offensive when it is used towards them. Overall, I think that no one should use the “n” word and maybe this will help with the ongoing problem of racism in the world today and in the future.
The “N” word is a very touchy subject in today’s world. Though considered one of the most demeaning words in the English language, it is constantly uttered in many different areas of society. Whether the word is said by a white person or a black person, I feel uncomfortable with it. The history of the word has no “cool” meaning. It is exactly the opposite. I do however realize that today it is a part of black culture and is a very important word. On the other side of the coin, since the word in thrown around so much, I find it hard to see how it will not be said outside of its usual setting. I think that if it’s going to be said as often as it is, it has to be expected that it will be misused and said inappropriately. I do think that responsibility has to be taken by those using the word as many people do not really understand the meaning of the word and will use it to be “cool” as Sam said. In my opinion the word is demeaning and should rarely be said, but it will continue to be said if it is constantly used throughout society. It should be used by only those who fully understand it.
In my personal opinion, the “n” bomb is a word that should be used very carefully and in moderation. I personally am not comfortable saying that word at all, and I know a lot of people who feel the same way. I hear it a lot in rap and hip hop songs, and it always makes me uncomfortable, regardless of whether it ends in “-a” or “-er.” I avoid using that word at all costs.
I think it is true that it is much less acceptable for a white person to use any form of the “n” word than a person of color to use it. In out race relations class a black person said that he used it all the time in all sorts of different situations. No one really made a big deal about it. Then a white person said that he used that word all the time too, and the entire class went absolutely silent with a few awkward chuckles here and there. Sam asked the black guy if it was okay that the white guy uses the “n” word all the time and he said “it depends on how it is being used.”
I think it depends on your particular points of view. I do not really care if someone uses the word, but I am not comfortable in saying it myself. I think that everyone should be very careful in how they use it and who they are using it with because it could be taken offensively.
I try as much as possible not to use the “N” word, but because I was raised in Philadelphia where the “N” word is frequently used, it is sometimes hard not to use it. Back in high school the “N” word was used by a lot of my friends (colored Friends), I guess it is something that color people use to make their sentences sound “cooler”, which is being portrayed by the rap industry. And I do admit some of the people that use the “N” word are viewed as being cool. However, I don’t think it’s right to use the “N” word in any surrounding, which is why I am trying to eliminate that word from my vocabulary. I definitely don’t think that it’s okay for white people to use the “N” word. The reason is because of the history black and white people have with each other and that word. The white people made the “N” word as a way to label the black people as inferior to whites and to keep them in oppression. Just because the word today is being thrown around a lot and it doesn’t have the same magnitude as it did before, white people still shouldn’t use it even if they want to look “cool”.
I feel that there are probably a lot of different opinions on this issue, and I kind of think that I understand both sides. The N word has been a derogatory term for decades, and that cannot change overnight. However, I know black people that are on both sides of the fence. Some of them say that a white person should never be allowed to say the N word in any type of context what so ever. Some others say that if they know them and know that they are saying it in a lighthearted and friendly manner, then it’s acceptable.
Personally, I don’t think I would ever say it. I was brought up in an environment where it was completely inappropriate and rude to say “nigger” or even “nigga”. To be completely honest I even try to avoid it when I’m in my car singing along to a rap or R&B song. I’ll sing all the words out loud until it gets to that one and then I’ll just kind of mumble it. I’ve had a number of my black friends tell me that I should call them that, and then I try it and they make fun of me because they can tell how uncomfortable I get.
On the Blog entry regarding the N word. I believe that is a word that has a terrible history behind it. Anyone that experienced discrimination other and other forms of racism during the the Jim Crow years and earlier will express how they feel about this oppressive word. In our generation, where it is not legal to be discriminated against and segregation does not exist, the word does not have the same power it used to have. Rappers and comedians use it loosely to identify other people of color (mainly black). It is similar to calling someone in your social circle a foul name that would not be acceptable unless you were cool with that person. You can call your close friend a loser or idiot etc., but if you try to call someone that you are not on that same level of friendship or understanding, there will be an issue. I heard white people use the word nigga within their social circles because where they grew up they were very comfortable with blacks. It is more of a personal thing and it will differ person to person. For example if we had a bunch of people living in the Hamptons white or black that knew nothing about blacks using the word just because they thought it was cool, the word would be abused quickly. I personally feel that even some rich black people should not even be able to use the word if they only use it because they hear their favorite rapper using it. You just have to understand the black culture and know how blacks will feel if one uses it especially if you are ignorant of the black culture.
I really don’t see the big issue about not being able to drop the N-bomb. All of my life I have never, not once, had the desire to drop the n-bomb in a way shape or form, and I don’t see that changing any time soon. I also see why black people feel the urge to keep the word to themselves. It in of itself is a small form of empowerment. Being able to say a word that other people can’t say automatically separates you into groups, those with and those without power. I believe that any racial group would react the same why in that certain position, especially if their argument for not allowing others to say the word is backed by two hundred years of enslavement. But another thought about this subject that I had was that race segregation is still an issue today in many parts of the United States, whether it be colored people separating themselves from white people or white people from colored people, and I don’t think progress can be made if both sides does agree to compromise. One of those compromises might have to be the allowance of anyone to have permission to drop n-bombs.
I think that is IS a matter of “you get to say it, we get to say it.” I agree that white people want to be part of the club. I am white, and I know several people who get upset over the fact that black people can use the n word and white people can. I think that they are mad that they are being excluded from the club of people who get to say it.
Just because you have an issue with the fact that white people can’t say the n word, does not mean that you are racist. However, I have several acquaintances who have very racist views, and they definitely take issue with the fact that they can’t say it. I try to express my point of view, that there is ton of negative history behind the n word—a history of oppression and racism. White people took power over this word for so long, and used it in horrible ways. Some black people are okay with the use of the word, while others are not—for those who are okay with it, I have always assumed that they are asserting their power over the word. Maybe it’s their time to use it any way they want to. For a white person to say it just rehashes the negative way that white people used it in the past.
In summary, I don’t really have a problem with the idea that white people cannot use the “n” word. As a white person, I don’t think it’s “cool,” and I would never say it.
I don’t really understand why people use the “n” word at all. White or black, I feel like it is a dirty word that shouldn’t be uttered out of anyone’s mouth. I’m not really sure where it actually originated from, but when comedians and black actors use that kind of language, others will obviously pick it up. Especially for kids in high school, they see people dropping this word like it’s nothing. Because of our culture, people are growing up to learn how to talk like this. This word seriously offends people and should never be said in any kind of matter. I do think that is kind of unfair that black people use the word but when white people do, they get very upset. Bottom line, I just don’t think that it should be said at all. It would save a lot of troubles and racism problems. I don’t think it is really fair to ridicule other races besides blacks for saying this word when they use it all the time. Some people say it so nonchalantly that it seems like they wouldn’t mind if people said it, then completely blind side you when someone actually drops the word because they feel it is acceptable in that atmosphere. People should be a little more sensitive and not use this dirty word.
After reading Laurie's original statement and others comments on this historically word I'm not surprised by alot of peoples mixed emotions. I am a black female that has grown up with family member who cuss like sailors, but that word has always seemed to be off limits. It’s interesting because the word can have many meanings if used by black people with an er or a. I find that when black and brown people use the word around other people of color they use it to refer to other people of color. For example like saying that girl or guy, as it were some form of a noun not a derogatory term. In no shape or form am I condoning that this is accurate or holds truth in many households or all people of color use the word. In recent generations that word had being coined to be in many media pieces like shows, especially music, videos and so forth. When my friends use the word I tend to get upset because it makes them sound ignorant because they could definitely find another word.
I've run into many white people who claim that it is unfair that that people of color use it and white people cant. Overall it’s ignorant no matter how the word is used whether their black or white. Many people of color feel guilt when they use it around white people, so they SHOULDNT USE IT! Never should people feel like they have to walk on eggs shells to use a word especially when the original purpose of the word was intended to be hurtful and a form of disrespect.
Kelli Scruggs
Language is not a static thing. Words can have different meanings, different interpretations -- these change with time. Nigger is a word. It has been used as a derogatory insult, as a term of endearment, and for everything in between when referring to black people and people of other races, whether pronounced with an "er" or an "uh." As a part of our language, in our society, which is based on free speech, no one has the authority to say who can use it or how it can be used. As I see it, everyone is a little bit racist. What I mean is, everyone sees racial differences. It is human nature to be selfish and see oneself as being better than others. Every group has a sense of self-pride. It is only when this pride turns into a supremacist sentimentality that problems begin to occur. No one race is any "better" or "worse" than any other, they are all just different, and only in superficial ways. When you say it's ok for one race to use the word, but not another race, you're really just perpetuating the tradition of separating the races by what they are or are not "allowed to do." Every person is an individual. Having a racial identity is fine, but just because the N word is a part of that identity (and if you are black, it is) doesn't mean other people of other people should be stigmatized just for saying it, whatever way they use it. If people use it in a hateful way (and they do), you have the right to dispute it, as does every American citizen. If it offends you that people also use it in a jovial manner, then you also have the right to dispute it, but the fact that you have this right means that you shouldn't. If you really want to change people's minds, the best way to do it is just by talking to them, not yelling at them or telling them how wrong you think they are. Just explaining your own point of view is enough.
I find it odd that even black people care to address others using the "n" word. Considering the history of the word and how offensive it is, I would think that the use of this word would feel uncomfortable even when black people use it to address other black people. I agree that some white people want them to be using this word to be accepted because they want to be in the “club”. They want to be cool. However, also there are other white people that want to use this word because they are surrounded by this “urban culture” and simply see it as a normal thing to address one’s friends in this way. It’s generally accepted that there is a difference in connotation when using the “er” or “a” ending. I’m pretty sure there are people that believe the “a” ending is more acceptable for a white person to say. Personally, I believe that there’s not really a difference in the meaning of the two. Do you get a different meaning when someone says sittin instead of sitting? Also, I think that many white people who use this word are unaware that it isn’t accepted by a lot of society. They think that if they’re not using it in a negative way then it won’t be taken as a negative thing.
This is an interesting topic. One that I find myself battling with my opionion on it. I will never, not once, say the N word. And I get very uncomfortable when other people say it, even black people. I think it awesome when cultures are able to "take back" a word, and turn it into something less offensive by giving it another meaning. Maybe that is what is meant with the N word ending in an "a"? In class Sam was talking about how its deemed more acceptable to say that now than ever before. I have to disagree. If black people say it, then whites will start to think its okay, and the word will be misused.
I am, however, a huge fan of reading the intention behind a question, or a statement, as opposed to just the meaning of the statement. It is so hard in our world today, of political correctness, to always say the right thing. Therefore, if someone wants to say the N word, with no hatred or bigotry behind it.. is it really harming anyone?
Overall I just keep battling these points.. not saying the N word .. and not really having my mind made up.
I grew up in a white neighborhood. I went to private school at my local parish and the only black girl was in my class. At an early age, I was never exposed to racism. Even though I wasn’t exposed to it, my parents insisted that I never use any term that would negatively affect another race. To me, the “n” word is a way of describing a person’s character, not their skin color. From what I’ve gathered from my short life, the “n” word is somebody who acts shady, try to hustle you, and is always barging in when not welcome.
At Penn State Altoona, I roomed with a kid named Sammy. He was one hundred percent Dominican. He had black skin, an afro, and the kid knew how to dance. Once we got comfortable with each other, we were able to bash racial slurs against each other to get laughs. One night, he left the oven on all night after making a pizza. When I saw it I said, “Sammy you freakin’ nigga.” He responded, “Pock, you shut your cracker ass up.” None of us meant to hurt one another; we were just looking to bring laughs to a stupid incident.
So, I say you can use the “n” word amongst good company that you feel comfortable enough to joke around with. In the end, it’s just a word.
I find this blog response very interesting because I am technically a mixed young adult male born from a white father and a latina mother, but for the most part I consider myself latino because I was born and raised in the Central American country of El Salvador.
During my college years, I have become very good friends with other black and latino students whose hometowns are in urban areas of different parts of the country. A few of them were actually my roommates for a couple of years. One day, they asked if I used the n-word. Acutally, they assured me that I was "allowed" to say the n-word around them. One of my African American friends even created a group in facebook that was called "I can say the n-word without getting my ass kicked," and I was sent an invitation, along with other black and hispanic friends. So I have to agree with Sam that there has to be a level of acceptance to the "club" and usually white people are not welcome to that club.
I personally do not agree with this idea, but it seems to be such a delicate subject connected to the history of this country that black people are usually offended with white people use the word around them.
Even though my friends are very dear to me, I don’t agree completely with their beliefs, but I respect them for I know their true intentions.
I definitely agree completely with the blog about dropping the ‘N’ Bomb having become a cool thing in society. I think that using it successfully among groups of people has become somewhat of a status and gives the user a reputation for being likable among his/her peers. I can completely understand why it is only acceptable when used among black people but I feel as though if it should not be used by others, maybe it should not be used at all. It kind of goes back to the age old “only I can make fun of my brother…no one else can” thing. Though it really isn’t necessarily acceptable for you to be making fun of your brother at all, I can understand why it wouldn’t be okay for someone else to make fun of him. This makes it more difficult for other people to understand though, and I do believe that some tolerance should be applied when people who are not black attempt to use the word to invoke those same “cool” feelings; when it is not being used to harm or insult. Also it is important to understand that if black people have transformed this word from something horrible and derogatory into something of coolness then they may as strange as it sounds embrace the fact that others (black or not) are using the word now on the terms of others, as they have reshaped it, and redefined it. I'm not saying that it should be used, but if black people are going to redefine it in a more positive light, I think that it needs to be understood that it may start to catch on.
For years people have been using the N-word (nigger).Especially in African American communities. Most use this word as a term of endearment and respect. By changing it from nigger to nigga, it holds a different definition. The N- word is a derogatory word that should not be used socially and casually. The history behind the word gives it a huge impact.
When slavery started, nigger was used to describe the slaves. The United States is an advanced country; things are no longer the same. Words used in the past, especially negative words, should be left in the past. Neither Caucasians nor African Americans should be allowed to use the word. African Americans take offense to it when the word is used. However, i feel that all races should be offended by the word. The term was used during a time that was inhumane and should be looked as such by every race and nationality.
With the cooperation of all races, the word can be eradicated. It can only be used in text books if necessary. Otherwise, the word should be a censored word and should be looked at as other curse words because it holds the same value as a curse.
I think that the use of the “n” word is completely relative to who says it in what way. After reading this blog the first thing that came to mind was a lecture of Sam’s in which he spoke about words and the meanings they carry. A point he made that resonated with me was that words are just words. The word itself means nothing without the feeling or purpose behind it. Any word that could be used against blacks in the same horrific manner as the “n” word would have little significance without the emotion fueling its use.
I do not see why the “n” word hurts people because the people that use the word are just trying to be cool. Therefore just like people of color use the term “cracker” and other terms that were once used to offend whites and are now overlooked I think the “n” word when used for “cool” purposes is fair game. Although, this comment does not encompass that percentage of people who still use derogatory terms like the “n” word with the intention of offending an individual or expressing that they think a certain race is inferior to their own. In my opinion that group of people needs some seriously enlightenment.
I do not like the fact that the n-word had turned to a word that is “cool” to use among black people. I feel that no one should use that word because it was a way to degrade blacks in the past. However, since it is used so much by black and brown people in the media, especially by rappers in hip hop and rap that the word has been acceptable by black people. Black and brown people tend to think that if they change the ending to “a” instead of “er” the term in acceptable. If whites say the n-word it is totally unacceptable unless they are one of those few whites that are “in” with the black people so they are so called accepted. But it is a double standard, blacks can drop the n-bomb all the time, but if a white person does they are seen as racists. The term for black people has changed from hate to a term of endearment and friendship. I do not understand how the n-word got the reputation to be “cool” and user friendly among black and brown people and not for white. Being black myself I still do not think anyone should use the word just because it had such a hateful meaning in history. I believe that if rappers and celebrities stopped using the n-word so much in songs that it would stop the youth from using it as well.
I completely agree with this double standard. White people act tough, ‘hard,’ and trashy, so why shouldn’t they be called Niggers? That’s basically the reference we’re using it for these days, after all. If black people can use the word all the time, why can’t white people? I completely agree with the fact that the word comes from painful origins, but I think that this double standard needs to go! Black people and other minorities should stop having their attitude of “anyone white who uses the N-word is a racist,” and white people should stop thinking that there is some “rule” that they have to follow- to use the N-word at their own risk. A lot of black people hate the n-word just as much as us white folks do because it is considered a rude and racially charged curse word. However, there needs to be a definitive unwritten rule. Either the N-word isn’t used at all, or it is acceptable when used in certain contexts. For example, saying “Hey Nigga” instead of “Hey friend” is, in my opinion, acceptable, but saying “You’re a nigger” when pointing to a black man or woman is completely UNacceptable. The reality, though, is that this will never happen. I think that people, anyone, should be allowed to use the N-word if they are willing to accept it’s burden. Any person who says it should be willing and able to face the criticism, the stares, and the controversy it will entail. It’s hateful and it’s wrong, but no one can be stopped from saying it because it’s a free country.
Personally, I do not think that saying the N-word has anything to do with being cool. The N-word originated as a derogatory term for people of color. Now it is used in rap videos, as a way for people to greet there friends, along with many other slang meanings. I never really understood how a word with so much hate can be so transformed. Why is it okay for black people to call each other a word that was so hurtful in the past? It is probably better, since it helps dilute the meaning behind it, but it is not a word I feel should be used at all, no matter who you are. As a white male, I would not feel comfortable saying it, no matter who it was to, and whether I used the “-a” ending or the “-er” ending. I know it is the meaning you put behind the word that gives its significance, but after years of harm being done by a word, I don’t see how that it can all of a sudden be cool. There are so many other words that can be used to sound cool, and there is no reason the N-word should be added to that list.
Is “nigga” the new and improved “nigger” in today’s society? Personally I feel like “nigga” and “nigger” are not the same words. Dropping the “a” off of “nigg” and adding an “er” changes the meaning of the word dramatically. Nigger distinctively labels a black person and is a term of ignorance and insolence. Overtime the word nigga has become a cultural term used by the urban generation of today, yet more liberally by African Americans. Even though the term has become more acceptable this still does not mean anybody and everybody can use this term. A random person cannot just casually come up to me a say “hey nigga!” That is uncool for a black or white individual. I am an African American female who was raised in a fairly mixed urban community in Philadelphia. My white friends say “wassup nigga” all the time. Some African Americans may state this is not acceptable, however to me it is a sense of comfort with the other person. When my white friends say “nigga”it does not strike me as an insult. Though if a state college resident were to say “wassup nigga” I would question the context of the expression. I try not to relate the expression “nigga” to race; generally the meaning of both terms really depends on the perspective and situation.
Alright, i agree with the statement associated with black people that they have brought some pretty cool and interesting thoughts, ideals, and fads into our culture today. I often hear the use of the N when i pass by a group of black people, or like sam said when watching black comedians such as Dave Chappelle and Chris ROck. I think these guys are hilarious and have brought many new things to the table as far as comedy has come. But i dont really understand why white people would feel the need or want to use this word. It is not really a part of our culture and obviously alot of black people dont want to hear that out of a white persons mouth. Now i can understand if you have a lot of black friends and start to pick up their culture more than the average white guy that it would be a little more forgivable. But to be honest i really find no use in me being a white person to use the term. I dont get offended if i hear black people using the word religously through their everyday conversation because it is something that i feel is acceptable for them to say. I will also admit that when i hear uneducated white people call someone the name and just use it in such a dirogatory way it usually tends to piss me off. It's like, where have you people been for the past thirty years?? I personally feel that i have no need or want to drop the n bomb in my life at the current time. Who knows, maybe in the future it will become a common thing for all people to say, but for now, if your white you dont really need to go that route. Thank you.
I completely understand where the white girl in the discussion group was saying. Constantly, through out rap lyrics, comic standup, and even in daily conversation, I hear the N-bomb being dropped. If it is okay for black or brown people to call each other the N-word as a means of endearment, then why can’t I call my friends that word as well. I understand that in the past the N-word was used as a put down and had a very negative connotation, but today people (black and brown) use it as a synonym for “my friends”. For example I always hear people saying “I am going to hang out with my N-word.” I believe if I were to say that phrase, I would most likely be punched in the face. But I do not understand why. If it is “cool” or acceptable for black and brown people to call each other that, then equally it should be “cool” or accepted if I or another white person says it too. It is a double standard and it is completely unfair. When I white persons drops the N-bomb it is seen automatically as an insult even if the word end in an “a.” I believe it to be unacceptable for any race to use the N-word with the “er” ending because it has a completely different meaning than using the N-word with the “a” ending. Personally, I have no idea why the different endings brings different connotations but it does. Overall, if one race can say it, all races can say it (but I will not be the leader for this movement for the fear of being accused as a racist or punched in the face).
The “N” word has a very difficult and complex situation around it. Whether or not one can use it who is white is a hotly debated point. I see the many facets of this argument and as in most situations life would be so much easier if the word just didn’t exist. I can see the cool argument you make but at the same time I can see a much stronger acceptance backing to it. If any old white person goes around spouting the word some may not care but at some point that person is going to get their ass beat. Whereas if you are in a mixed company group and it is totally acceptable for the white person to use it then you are in. I think deep down people who use it strive for that ends. At the same time I think in the eyes of whites who don’t see or use the word as derogatory are intending it in the comradery sense that it is used by many blacks as today. This isn’t the first word of its nature to do this. On more than one occasion downtown on a weekend I have heard girls who are best friends call each other “sluts” with no malice intended. I feel like some whites see blacks use the word for that and therefore use it amongst themselves too intending the same ends. Unfortunately not everyone sees it that way and therefore it can lead to hurt feeling or altercations. This is a word that means too many different things to too many different people so it is just too hard to pinpoint what is and is not acceptable. Just some thoughts of mine.
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Kyle Lutes (kwl5039)
i think the N-bomb is disrespectful no matter who says it. I have friends who use the word all the time, and while i son't say anything about it when they're just talking, if they happen to address me using that word, I'll call them out on it. Those are my black friends. I have not experience a white person or friend saying the word in my presence, but if I did, i think i would have a more negative reaction. and i guess that is a double standard, but i'm more used to hearing people of color say the word. i cringe everytime i hear it, even in my favorite music, but the i guess it hurts more when a white person says it. It doesn't make sense, but then it does. That word to me is just so demeaning and unnecessary. When black people say that they have turned it around and are now using it as a positive term, a term of endearment, i can't wrap my head around that. Why not just be creative and come up with another word? That word is drippingwith disrespect, disgust, and disdain for black people, so to use it, in any form, is just insane. But, since i am used to hearing that reasoning and hearing the word in the black community, it's not so much of a shock. I guess it is a double standard, but I wonder why anyone, black or white would want to use the word. I feel like a white person shouldn't use the word, even if it is a double standard, because it is bound to cause major conflict. However, black people shouldn't usethe word because it undermines everything that we as a race hae been through, everything we hae worked and are working to overcome, and it's just insulting. When I think of the words "Nigger" or Nigga" there is no difference to me. I still think of a person who is ignorant, subordinate, and less than others. I tihnk of a person that i am not, and no one should ever be. That word is a negative label. Every other term or word used to describe blacks, "colored", "people of color", "afro-american", etc, I can find the logic in. I can understand where they came from, even if I would prefer to not be refered to with some of those terms. But they all make some kind of sense to me. The N word makes absolutely no sense to me. I don't see the logic in that word besides hate and misunderstanding. So, I basically think that it should just be removed from the human vocabulary. I know that won't happen. There will be people out there who will always defend it as a new, term of endearment, a new positive spin on a negative term; and there will always be people who use it as it drips with hate. then there will always be people like me who will never accept the word as ok and will never allowed myself to be called a nigger, nigga or whatever. My name is Ariane Ashley Gilgeous and that is what i WILL be called.
~Ariane A. Gilgeous
I think the reason that it is okay for those of the same race or gender to make fun of them is because there is not as much room for interpretation or misinterpretation. For example, I am Jewish. If someone who is Jewish makes fun of Jews, I know they are making fun (normally) having good intentions. There usually is no malice or threats associated with these. But if a Nazi were to start making fun of Jews, I would be worried that there could be follow up actions or consequences that would make me feel quite uncomfortable. The same thing goes for the “n” word. If a black person calls another black person that, it is okay because there is a mutual understanding of what the word means and entails. If a white person were to call someone that, this probably would not be acceptable because who knows if that white person is racist or if they are just trying to fit in?
I also think there is a sense of ownership in regards to certain words, phrases, and slurs. If a white person uses the “n” word, there is a line that is being crossed. That is not a word that most white people use, and therefore they are crossing the boundary of what is considered normal. The “n” word, in society is always associated with black people, and is most often used by them too. Because society has made it so there is importance in what language is used regarding racism, black people may feel ownership of this word. I know for me, sometimes if someone from a different social group comes to try to fit in, they use language that they don’t really know what it means, in hopes that they will fit in. Fitting in is a big part of racism today as well. Some want to cross the bridge of separation, while others do not. There is no way to tell upon first meeting someone how they stand in regards to racism, and there are so many ways to interact with others too. This makes it extremely difficult to read people and know their intentions.
The whole concept that there is a difference between “nigga” and “nigger” is also quite confusing. Someone who did not grow up or is not as familiar with these seemingly slight differences may cause offense to those that are black. Someone could be trying to be friendly and accepting by using one word, while actually using the other one. This can cause a lot of reason to believe that there is racism.
In response to Sam’s original post, I cannot help but to agree with the basics of what he has written. On the totem pole of heroes for white youth, sports and entertainment stars rank at the top. Those sports and entertainment stars are likely to be a different ethnicity, and possibly use words that the white youths do not use. Without thinking about the race of the sports and entertainment stars, is there any reason to assume that the white youths would not emulate their heroes in language as well as activity? If the sports and entertainment stars were all Chinese and many spoke their native language, would it be a surprise to see white youths start to drop an occasional word of Mandarin in their conversation?
My personal addition to the original comment is that I almost admire the spirit of the white youth for not knowing the past hatred behind the word and just assuming that if their heroes can use it then so can they. This ignores the feelings of the rest of society regarding the word, which are obviously quite different. In a way though, I feel that much could be gained by assuming the mentality of the youth, for if the hatred of the word is unknown to them then they cannot be saying it with hatred and malice in mind. It may be a small difference, but in my mind white youths using the word to emulate their sports and entertainment heroes is a vastly different issue then racists and bigots using the word to express hatred of an entire group.
As far as conversations involving the “N” word go, I am personally uncomfortable when anyone uses the term. In my experience, when the term is used by a white person, it has been because they were trying to emulate hip-hop culture. But, when it comes to who can and cannot use the word and what type of people make words or comments racist, I believe that if you are part of the group that you are talking about, then what you are saying is not a racist comment. Being a white person, I am not going to walk around dropping the “N” bomb or saying nasty things about other cultures that I am not a part of. My reasoning behind this is that in my mind, those comments would be racist. If someone who was part of my religion or part of my race was to make a comment about the religion or race, I would not take offense because those comments are usually made of out jest and apply to the person speaking as well. It doesn’t make sense that people would make racist comments about themselves. I think that when someone outside of a race, ethnicity or culture makes a negative comment about another race, ethnicity or culture, then that is a racist comment. That person is saying something rude about a culture does not apply to them. Today in class someone used the example “I can talk about my family, but when someone else does it, I am going to basically go off the deep end”. It is not racist if you are talking about something that deals with you and your culture. The statement can be completely false and/or a generalization but it is not a racist comment.
I think this situation, though it is one that comes up all of the time. Honestly, when a person of another race asks that question, I don't put any energy to entertaining this subject. Why that person is so worried about it, is what I think in my head. It makes me chuckle to myself because someone must seriously have no life to not anything better to do then to go out of the way to ask a question like, If we can't say nigger then why can you?. And then I would also wonder the reasoning why it is so important to know, it almost seems childish, as though the person who asked wants to say the word. Another reason why I would not entertain that question is because, I don’t think any answer to that question can be rightly justified. I’m not saying that people should not answer, but I don’t because I don’t believe the reasoning behind it would be worth listening to. So, I myself refrain from saying it because my personal feelings towards ancestors being degraded by those words don’t give me a nice feeling about throwing it around. When individuals do throw around the word a lot, it has been known to desensitize the word, reversing its original meaning, but I still feel as though I should show somewhat of respect for the ancestors before me. So, all in all, I believe that “no comment, as I slightly roll my eyes” would be the correct response from my mouth towards a person of another race asking me why they cannot say nigger and why black people can.
I feel as though the “n” word brings up a lot of controversy especially in today’s generation because of how freely many people use the word. Personally being white I feel no need or desire to use the “n” word. Although the same question arises in my mind as to why white people can’t use the term as freely as black people. I understand that is has “history”, but at the same time if black people are so open to using the term freely I feel as though there shouldn’t be exceptions to certain people who are not of color who can use it and who cannot.
Speaking from a white person’s point of view I feel as though we are not trying to make it a point to say that we should be able to drop the “n” bomb whenever and wherever we want or on a normal basis but we shouldn’t be so scared of what will happen if comes out of our mouth white singing along to a song. Or for example some people have proclaimed to feeling comfortable using it in their tight net of friends who accept it coming from them being a white person.
I don’t know if we will ever come to terms as to who is and isn’t allowed to say the “n” word. Personally I don’t feel comfortable using it no matter what context it is in and would even consider it a word in my vocabulary. But the more this word is depicted in our media the more challenging this question is going to become.
The double standard of who is allowed and who is not allowed to drop the N-bomb is something that is talked about so frequently nowadays. And personally it is something I have talked about with many of my friends. First off I do not think it is right for anyone to use that word regardless of what race you are. I would never think to use that word and even when my friends do I cannot stand it. The use of that word just sounds so horrible. No matter the ending –a or –er. I do not understand how anyone could think that using the N word makes them appear “cool” or sound “cool.” I know when I hear people say it, all I think to myself is, “do you hear how you sound right now?” I do not even understand how black people or people of color themselves like the use of that word. Even if it is being said by someone on their own kind, with the history that word has and its original meaning, it should never be used. If I was of color, regardless of the context someone was using the word in, or even if it’s meaning has been reshaped, the word still originally was used out of hatred and I would never want to say it to someone of my own race or another.
However, if black people or people of color feel they are “allowed” to drop the N-bomb when they want and expect it to be okay, then they should expect the fact that others will want to use it too. Just because the word originated out of hate for their people, does not give them anymore right to use the word opposed to someone else using the word. There is not as much tension when a black person or a person of color uses that word opposed to a person not of color, but it still should not be
used.
The N-word just sounds like a bad and dirty word, and if society thinks that it is a cool and acceptable word to use, then maybe we need to re-think a lot of things.
In response to “Dropping the N-Bomb – Part I”, I have to say that I pretty much agree whole heartedly with everything that was said. This blog is on point from beginning to end. I don’t think there is a double standard. Certain people, or groups of people have things they say to each other that are okay to say, but if someone else said it, it could be seen as offensive. If I’m joking around and I call one of my friends a bastard, they will know I’m kidding. If a stranger walks up and calls them a bastard, then it is a different story. I also agree with the point that was made that states white people want to use the word to try and status themselves as cool. As many times as I’ve heard a white person use it, I’ve never personally heard someone use it in a racially derogatory way. It is always white people trying to be cool, because as this article states, black (and brown) people are the epitome of cool. Black icons like Dave Chapelle and Chris Rock have helped move the word in this direction, and though some people may claim it is inappropriate or wrong, they have taken the hatred out of a word and made it “cool”. To me, that is quite an accomplishment.
In response to “Dropping the N-Bomb – Part I”, I have to say that I pretty much agree whole heartedly with everything that was said. This blog is on point from beginning to end. I don’t think there is a double standard. Certain people, or groups of people have things they say to each other that are okay to say, but if someone else said it, it could be seen as offensive. If I’m joking around and I call one of my friends a bastard, they will know I’m kidding. If a stranger walks up and calls them a bastard, then it is a different story. I also agree with the point that was made that states white people want to use the word to try and status themselves as cool. As many times as I’ve heard a white person use it, I’ve never personally heard someone use it in a racially derogatory way. It is always white people trying to be cool, because as this article states, black (and brown) people are the epitome of cool. Black icons like Dave Chapelle and Chris Rock have helped move the word in this direction, and though some people may claim it is inappropriate or wrong, they have taken the hatred out of a word and made it “cool”. To me, that is quite an accomplishment.
-Alex Davis
I can completely understand the essence of this post. Many young people, including myself, used to go back and forth on the “n” word. My intentions were not to be degrading or demeaning in any way possible. It was just that growing up in a very white neighborhood, with a hint of influence from the city, made some new terms be thrown about aimlessly. African Americans in this day in age are considered trend setters no matter which way you look at it. This has much to do with the rap and hip hop community that floods the homes of many young males. But not just any young males buy these recordings. Most of the CD sales go to the white community. On these tracks, includes many different derogatory terms thrown about. When people like parents and organizations get critical, they normally go straight to the “n” word. But what about words like bitch? Most people know this word as a demeaning term for women. But this word is usually surpassed by the race card. But is it really okay for all groups of people to use these terms? I do not think it is right for some races to use these words in a bigoted way. In this day in age, these words are just considered cool or just “words.” But you cannot determine every situation it is okay to say these words in because every person has a different view on the subject. This is why I think all these words should not be said on a regular basis like they are now. It may take some time for change, but look how far race has come.
I personally think using the n-word is wrong. Period. I definitely see the argument of black people who think it is absolutely wrong for, in some cases, anyone BUT black people to use the term, or in other cases, any white people to use the term, because of the origin of the word. I have heard black people ask the question, “Why in the world would a white person even want to use the word?” But I also think it is wrong for any black people or people of color to use the term. I ask the question, “Why in the world would any black person even want to use the word?” The n-word started as being a derogatory name used by white slave owners toward their black slaves. So when did the slaves or black people in general want to start using the name toward one another? A word that is so strong and had such a strong meaning toward them is now thrown around as a normal nickname and it doesn’t even faze them! Until, of course, someone of another race, particularly a white person, uses it. I think the entire word should be taken out of every day language because there are so many other words that can be used instead, and their also wouldn’t be such a dividing line, “us and them.” They can use the word, but they can’t. Even if a white person is using it the same exact way a black person would, just as friendly and as part of their daily language, it is wrong.
I am among those people who cringe whenever they hear the word "nigger" or "nigga". Not gonna lie, it's hard for me to type it without feeling like I should backspace. I understand that words lose their meaning or the certain sting they seem to have, no matter why or when they're said. And I understand that meanings develop and change, just as general attitudes and perceptions change over time and through different generations. With that said, it is most certainly easy and understandable to say that words are just words. And yes, sometimes we have to look deeper than words in order to even understand what was said and the context of what was said. However, I still believe that words have more power than we'd like to admit. While actions have even more power, words lay the foundation. Just because something changes over time does not mean it has no power in the present. And as much as political correctness can keep us from brutal honesty, which has power in itself, sometimes I think we do have to be aware of the power of our words and come to a point of decidingwhether or not our reason for saying something validates offending someone else.
The “N-bomb” came up a lot in our discussion group this past semester and people had very different remarks about it. Some people found it ok because many black people use it on a daily basis as a form of acceptance and “coolness.” Yet I believe that this word is not, by any means, acceptable for anyone to use. I believe a lot of young people throw around the word a lot without even realizing the history that is behind it. Yes it might appear “cool” to be dropping the “N-bomb” around your friends and the people close to you but that word carries so much weight and hatred throughout history. I can almost guarantee that if the grandparents of young African-Americans today heard their grandchildren using that word, they would be appalled.
Changing the ending from “er” to just an “a” doesn’t change the history that comes along with it. It represents a time when white people treated black people as inferior and when there was so much hatred at the African-American race. It is also never ok for black people to use the word. Look at how far our country has come. We now have an African-American president; black and white people can attend the same schools, get married and live side by side. Using the “N-bomb” so casually dishonors how far our country has come as a whole and how hard African-Americans have worked to gain the rights they deserve.
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“Let's face it. Urban African Americans are the epitome of coolness.” I think this may be the greatest thing I have seen written on paper especially by a white man himself. Is it cool to be called “cool” if and only because we CAN use the word nigga? I mean really like let’s stop… think… and now reevaluate… Why every black person including me read this article entitled “The N-Bomb,” and felt the cool, calm urge of coolness come over them because white people consider us cool because we are guaranteed access to a word that they could probably never say, ever.
I am pretty much baffled at what this has come to. Why can’t we (black people) be cool for being professionals, lawyers, doctors, powerful political speakers etc. Why do we have to be cool because white people feel the need to want to say a word that could possibly end them in a world of trouble depending on who/whom is around.
Don’t get me wrong I absolutely have nothing against white people, and let’s not get things twisted I am under no circumstances trying to apologize, offer an explanation or explain myself for what I said previously said. I am just putting out there that I acknowledge white people and the fact that there are those that do interact with black people on a daily basis and that this nigga word can be tempting and more familiar to them because that may be what they are used to.
This is a situation that I know plenty about, and it does not even deal with me personally. I have never been one to have an urge to say that word, it simply just is not who I am. Growing up in New York, a lot of my friends are Italian and have that tough guy image. They think that it makes them tougher, more of a man to use that word. At least that is what I think goes through their heads when they say it. I do not really understand why people think using that word makes them cool when we all know what it meant during times of slavery and what not. At the same time, I know that when most white people use it or want the privilege to use it, they do not mean it in a bad way. Hearing that word honestly gets under my skin. I have told my friends many times when they use it in front of me that it bothers me and that I do not like when it is used. For some reason when I hear the word I think about the past and what was done to people of slavery. I think about how they were called this word, and even though the meanings are different between now and then it just bothers me. I hope our world can get to the point where using that word does not make you any cooler than if you did not use it.
I never heard of anyone complaining about not being able to say “nigga” until I came to Penn State. I think this is mainly because most of the white people I knew were older and teachers and usually punished us for using any kind of offensive word. I agree that white kids want to say “nigga” because they think it will make them look cool. I think white people do a lot of things just to seem closer and in touch with an entire group of people they hardly know anything about.
I think white kids watch BET more than I do, watch Chris Rock and other comedians more than I do, and also know more rap lyrics than I ever had. I think it’s really interesting how everyone wants to be black until they are about to get in trouble. No one wants to be black when they get pulled over by a police officer on an empty highway.
I find the white people in Penn State try really hard to be “down” with black people and a lot of times all they manage to do is offend me. Recently someone asked me if I had a niggaspace.com account. I have no clue what that is and I haven’t been curious enough to go look either. My roommate last year asked me, over the phone before she knew what I looked like, if I was excited to go to Penn State. I replied, “No I wasn’t because there are hardly any black people on campus”. She said, “Well I think everyone is equal and I like rap music”, it’s interesting how she tried to make a connection and failed so miserably. I don’t even listen to current rap music, but I let it go.
White people want more than to just say “nigga” to seem cool.
I found this blog very interesting because I guess I can relate to it. I am white, and I use the "N" word, ending with an "a" a lot, I'll just put it at the end of someone's name. I don't use it in a derogatory manner at all, and I guess I never actually thought twice as to why I use it so much. I don't think its because I think its cool to use it, I can't even remember when or why I started saying it. I will say it around my friends, whether they are white or of color because they know me and know I don't mean anything bad when I'm using it. However, I don't use it around people I don't know, because I don't want to offend other people and I don't want them to get the wrong impression of me. I do watch Dave Chapelle a lot, because I think he's funny, and I do say a lot of his lines like joking around with my friends. Ya know how you hear someone repeat something a lot, and it gets stuck in your head, and then you begin saying it? Well I think might be a reason as to why I say it. And it does bother me why black people can use the "N" word and its okay but if a white person were to use it, we would automatically be labeled as a racists.
Honestly I have to admit that there is a double standard when it comes to an African-American using the N-word and a white person using the N-word. Some may say its fair and some may say its not fair, but truth be told it is what it is. Also I have to admit that I am guilty of contributing to the growth of this double standard. I am an African-American male and I often use the N-word with my African-American friends and family members. Sometimes I also catch myself using the N-word while talking to a white person or a Spanish person. I know that it is not really good to use the N-word even if it does have an “ a “ on the end instead of an “ er “ , but because I heard it used so much in conversations in my neighborhood I began using it also. In my opinion there is a subconscious difference between a white person using the N-word and an African-American using the N-word that makes me feel uneasy when the word is used by a white person. I want to say that it is because of why and how white people used that particular term to degrade an African-American back in the day, but in all reality I don’t truly know why I don’t like to hear white people use that term. So for me I guess it is just one of those things that can’t really be given an explanation even though we know that it exists.
Let me first preface by saying that I am a white male. Now that we have that out of the way, I really don’t care about the dreaded “N” word. It is just a stupid word, I don’t want to say it so that I can seem “cool” because I already know I’m not cool so that would be kind of pointless. I personally don’t use “nigger” all that much except for times of extreme frustration in the privacy and safety of my home and only in the company of people that I know. It is not directed towards anyone it is just how I sometimes vent frustration. I will use “nigga” more commonly and I am usually use that term while I am making a joke or something of that nature. Again not in reference to any group or anything like that, I use it just like I use any other word. I use all sorts of words in connotations where they do not necessarily belong. I mean look at the word “cool” you say that something is cool, how does that really make any sense? Shouldn’t I be using that term to describe something cold? I also use the word “tan” which I essentially equate to meaning the same thing as cool. Again this makes absolutely no sense, but then again it is just a word and I like to make up my own definitions. I can understand that some black people could get upset from s white person referring to them as a “nigger” but most likely that person is sporting a fresh mullet, drives an 84’ Chevy pickup truck with a confederate flag on the back and is straight from the trailer park, so really you get the last laugh. Who the hell cares what ignorant white people say, ignore them. So, in closing, it is silly to fret over words that have no real power, remember the old phrase, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
I had only heard actors and singers use the word “Nigger” or “Nigga” in songs, movies and tv shows. Never really knew where this word originated from as I was not from United States. But I had heard from various people that it was considered very offensive in the States. As I came I never really meant to use the word but once in my dorm I said it in front of my roommate, don’t remember exactly in what context I used the word but as far as I remember it was meant as a joke and nothing more. My roommate literally snubbed me so harshly that it really got to me why would he react so staunchly over something so small and at something which wasn’t even directed at him, since he was white and it was offensive for black people (as far as I know). Then I asked him why he took it to offensively and he told me it was used as a derogatory word used for black slaves and it’s considered very offensive. Personally speaking I don’t care if anyone called me a nigger or used the word in front of me as its something very small for me to notice and make an issue out of. I think there are bigger things in life to worry about than make issues or quarrels over whether you used the N word or not! I think people should become more educated and liberal on things like this and not take offense so easily. Literally every rap song has the N word used in it somewhere or the other and those same people who take offense from it like those songs or listen to them at parties and I don’t see them making faces there or trying to do something about that. It is a state of mind of how you perceive things and well if you have nothing better in life to worry about then you take offense from little things like using the N word or not!
I’m honestly getting a little tired of hearing people complain about this. I think it’s completely ridiculous for anyone to use this word that caused much pain in the past and it still is. So many activist fought for this word to be completely abolished and to get blacks the respect that any living being deserves that it’s horrible that people forget that struggle. I was watching Chris Rock last night and he said that the reason why so many black people are so over protecting of the N word is because it’s the only thing that blacks can say that whites can’t. such a hateful word should not be used whether you are black, white, green, yellow or purple, period. Many people do use it not towards any person but as a way to refer to a friend or person. The word is virtually on almost every hip-hop or rap songs. I think there’s a point where we hear something so much and so many times that it get engrave in your brain and you’re just bound to use it. I don’t think that a particular race uses it because they want to be cool and if they do than that’s just plain dumb. I do think that there is going to be a time in the near future that the N-word is going to become an everyday word just like the word cool did or the word google. I understand why so many blacks get offended when someone uses this word. I think I would get offended as well if someone calls me a spik.
I feel like I’ve been hearing a lot more people talk about using the “n” word lately. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve been more in-tune to it because of my discussion class. I was watching Dr. Phil recently and they were talking about the use of the “n” word and had a panel of some famous black comedians, actors, writers, etc. and the audience was part of this open discussion. It amazed me that there were several white people in the audience saying that they not only used the “n” word when talking to their family and friends, but thought they should be able to use it freely when talking in public. Of course the black people were angry, and in my opinion rightly so. One of the women in the audience commented that she thought we would be moving forward as a society if everyone would be able to use the word freely without any negative association with it. She would be able to say it to anyone and no one would get upset in her “perfect world”. I can see that she meant to have good intentions, but that’s just not possible. It’s so different for black people to accept anyone saying the “n” word because of the history behind it with all the discrimination and hurt and suffering. If you call a white person a cracker or anything like that, it really doesn’t have as hurtful or negative a meaning. If someone said that to me, I really wouldn’t be offended. I think that the “n” word should be left for black people to say to each other if they want, but white people really don’t have any reason to use it.
Personally I don’t ever feel the need to drop the ‘N-bomb’, I am white though so I guess this is a good thing... In my home country you don’t often hear the word in normal conversation, so I guess it’s a word I’ve never really felt compelled to use, or that I needed to use to express myself. In regards to people of color being able to say it? I don’t really see how this is a double standard. The way the word was historically used was extremely negative, carrying such prejudice and hatred. If the people the word was used against, or their future generations, have been able to turn the word into something slightly more positive then don’t they have the right to do this? And perhaps, simply out of respect or something, white people just shouldn’t say it (or shouldn’t presume they have the right to say it)... In conversations regarding this topic I have heard white people say that no one should use it (regardless if it with an ‘a’ or an ‘er’), as it makes the person sound uneducated. While I do understand this point of view it sits a little bit oddly with me… To me it sounds like white people, who first started using the word in such a cruel and negative way, are now saying no one (even black people) can use it and if you do, you are uneducated. Given that mostly black people use it now it seems a little unfair…
Personally I don’t like it when anyone uses the “n” word and I am a white girl. I cannot even imagine how much it would make people of color mad. There is no reason to say the word whether people of color use it or not. It brings no meaning and it is just going to get you in trouble some day. From what I have heard some people of color just say it as a slang term for a friend. But I think that if anything it should just be said within people of color. I know if I was black or brown I wouldn’t want to be called that if I was a guy. Now a day, it just isn’t what it used to be. People have taken it too far with the word and have made it become a bad word in some cases and we have no one to blame except for ourselves. If you are in a situation and you have to question yourself whether or not to say it then you probably shouldn’t be saying it at all. There is no point. It doesn’t accomplish anything and like I said before, one day, it’s just going to get you in trouble.
I think a lesson in life we need to remember when talking about a topic like this is “Life isn’t fair.” Of course there is a double standard. Although today the word “nigger” (or any form of the word) might have a positive, bonding meaning when used between two African Americans, they still remember historical impact the word has had on their people. It is understandable that some white people might want to use the word just for the simple fact that today it can be almost a term of endearment between two people ( usually in an African American or urban culture). Also some white people might just feel that since African Americans can use it, why can’t I? But here is where it is really important to remember “Life isn’t fair”. Life wasn’t fair for the hundreds of years African Americans had to hear that term used towards them in a negative and demeaning manner. Life wasn’t fair for all the little African American children who were taunted with that word by their all white classrooms. Life wasn’t fair for the entire African American population who were considered to be merely a word instead of actual people with thoughts, voices, ideas, passions, and dreams. And finally life isn’t fair for the millions of African Americans who feel the same pain and anguish from hearing the word “nigger” as their ancestors did hundreds of years ago. So for those white people who are truly bothered by the inequality that they face with using the word “ nigger”, I would just like to politely remind them that life isn’t fair.
As we know that languages are changing over time, the word “N” is the same thing. For some people might find it offensive. However, for new generation might not think as the same way. From my experience during high school, my school is 80% black and 10% is Hispanic, and the rest is Asians. Every day, I heard the “N” word everyday, but it has not used in the bad way. Most of them were using it as a “greeting” for each other. I always hear the “N” word using more then five times before I get to class. Soon as I stepped into class, one of my friends would say, “What’s up “N”. The “N” word becomes more acceptable in new society. However, there will be new words that come, replace the “N” word, and make people offended
I would agree with the comment someone else made saying that I don't really like it when anyone uses the n-word. It just makes me personally uncomfortable and I think that it makes a lot of people who are not black uncomfortable. The issue arises because a lot of black people use it all the time and are cool with it. They use it as a term of endearment, like friend, and some are perfectly fine with their white friends using it as well. The problem comes in when you encounter black people who are not ok with the word under any circumstance. You accidentally drop the n-bomb and you are done. Or you come across the people who are fine with other blacks using it in every day language, to joke around with and sing along to it in songs but the very second a person of any other race, particularly a white person, says it they go nuts on them and suddenly it's this big problem. That's where the real problem is. It's not necessarily that white people are dying to use the phrase all the time like some black people do, it's just that there is so much confusion with when it's ok to use it or who's allowed to say it and sometimes it's a huge deal and sometimes it's not. I think that it should not be ok for anyone to say. Black, white, Puerto Rican, whatever; it's a horrible word with horrible connotations and a horrible history behind it.
When I was a boy, the first time I heard the “N” word was in a song by Jay-Z. Jay-Z was my favorite artist growing up, and I specifically remember wondering what the phrase, “Eight figga(figure) nigga, by the name of Jigga,” meant. My brother, being three years older then me, was in 6th grade, and he told me that “nigga” meant black person, but I shouldn’t say it, because it was mean. But is it really mean? Sure a few hundred years ago, it was anything but nice to call a black person a “nigga,” but today, with a black person as our President, I find no harm in calling a person that, unless they themselves have issues with the word. I would never call an older man a “nigga,” but if it’s someone my age, I feel that there is no problem with it. After World War II, being called a Jew in Germany was probably the same as being called a nigga in America after slavery. Slavery happened decades before the genocide of Jews in Germany, and yet, today the average person has very little issue with calling a Jew a Jew. You may also notice that I no longer put the word nigga in quotes, simply because I feel it should be treated as any other word. We live in a sad world when we are analyzing the use of a word in today’s society. We live in a society of free speech, and sure Oprah, a Goddess amongst middle-aged women, may look down upon the word, but that gives no reason for people of all races to deter from using a word.
I understand when a person may get offended by the word, however as a brown person, I have never had to deal with any problems when using the word. I don’t get offended when called a sand-nigger, simply because of the ignorance behind the word. As a brown person of East-Asian decent, the amount of sand in my country is so miniscule, that when called a sand-nigger, I truly think about what an ignorant statement that is, more than how much that hurts my feelings.
I’d have to agree with Sam, when she mentions that black people have “reshaped” the word from a hateful one, to one that people today yearn to say, just to be “cool.” I also agree with the fact that white people always feel uncomfortable saying it, but as a brown person, I stand in a view-point different from both sides. I do feel comfortable saying it, but also don’t ever feel offended when called it. Given that I am brown, I truly don’t care for the importance of the word, as I see it as just a word. I could start a cult amongst all my brown friends to call all non-brown friends, “bagel” but would that hurt anyone’s feelings? One could argue that it could very well hurt their feelings if they were all slaves of brown people, and that all the brown people used to call them “bagels” as a way of putting them down, but I honestly think, they would have to be slaves at most a hundred years ago for the word to be a derogatory word today. In a nutshell, the word nigga, should be just as normal as the word bagel.
I believe that depending on your race it determines a socially acceptable way to dress, think, act, and even speak. These prejudices and stereotypes can be seen throughout your daily life in the media including television, magazines, and songs on the radio. Using the word “nigger” is just one of the many controversial words that is considered racist if used by any race other than black people. I do not think black people should embrace the word so freely and use it so casually, yet still take offense to it if it was said by a white person.
There are thousands of racial slurs including a “beaner” to call a Mexican, a “chink” for a Chinese, or a “gringo” for a person of Spanish decent. I have the same belief regarding using any of these words…which is it should not be said by anyone! Even if you belong to that race, I feel if there should be a universal agreement that racial slurs should not be spoken. This includes within music (especially the rap industry), stand-up comedy, and even within your daily conversation with your group of friends.
I have always stood by the golden rule, “do unto others, as you would like done unto you”. This directly applies to this controversial use of the word “nigger”. Whether you are a black person using it playfully towards your best friends, or are a white person using it with a derogatory purpose, you should always consider the others person’s feelings and how they may process your words.
Since I have traveled and moved all over the United States, and abroad (including Tokyo, Japan, and Paris, France), I have first-hand experience of the extremely diverse world we live in. I know how it feels to be the minority and learn to adapt to another culture. When I lived in Tokyo, Japan, I attended The American School in Japan. I was surprised to find that most of the kids were not from America. There were kids from Australia, London, Peru, Africa, Japanese-Americans, and Japanese. Although this learning environment was extremely diverse, I still found a lot of stereotyping and racial slurs being used. Most commonly I found my American friends getting agitated when they would be in a social setting with half whites and half Japanese, and the Japanese would randomly interject Japanese into the conversation. This was referred to as “enganese” (English/Japanese). My friends would find themselves out of frustration calling the Japanese, “Japs”. This infuriated me and I found myself yelling at my friends or just not talking to them because of this.
I think the next time anyone hears a racial slur being used no matter who says it or who it is directed towards, a stand must be made in order to promote change within society.
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